Recently, Lyn wrote an article about opposites attracting and wondered if they can live happily ever after. She pointed out the challenges that such a pairing can create.
But not all is as it seems in the world of opposites…
We All Have Our Differences
To some extent, every relationship has opposite qualities. Some are just more obvious than others.
A true opposites attracting match that comes to mind is Dharma & Greg. I wasn’t a big fan of the show when it was on, but I watched it every now and then. She was a free spirited, fun loving, hippie type. He was a serious, down to earth, lawyer type. They viewed the world from very different places, and thus had very different attitudes and responses for handling things. That’s what the show relied on for its plotlines.
But some relationships differ in less obvious ways. For example, perhaps for the most part both of you are either liberal or conservative. But on certain issues one’s more liberal or conservative than the other. What I’m getting at it is, it doesn’t have to be a drastic difference in personality to create an opposites situation. Just small things here and there.
Wayne and I Are Opposite…
In one of my more recent articles, I told how Wayne and I often get asked questions about our relationship. One I failed to mention was, “You guys seem so opposite. How did you ever manage to hook up?”
We get this one because Wayne is more serious. I’m a goofball. Wayne is six two, slender, and runs six miles every morning. I’m exactly a foot shorter than him, round, and do good just getting out of bed to walk Murph in the mornings. He’s an accountant who thinks more logically and linearly. I’m a writer prone to letting my mind roam and wander at will. He prefers nonfiction and rarely reads fiction. I prefer fiction. (Although I do read a fair amount of nonfiction too.) He likes comedies. I’m all about mystery and horror.
…But Not as Opposite as We Seem
But when it comes to the top five fundamental relationship make or breaks, Wayne and I are not opposites. I’m talking views on money, children, religion, sex, and politics.
We might have some subtle differences here and there, but overall we view those crucial five from just about the same place. That’s what makes us work, despite our other seemingly larger differences.
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