We have not hit our one year anniversary yet and we have had so much family drama and a death of a friend what does the rest of the year going to bring? We still have the holidays coming up and after my first Christmas with my in-laws I really am not looking forward to having another one with them.
If you don’t know what happened during my first Christmas click this to read all about it. The holiday season is quickly approaching and I am really dreading it. The first holiday season as a married woman should be full of happiness and joy, when it is just me and my husband everything is great add in the extended family and it is just not going to be good.
When I thought about my first Thanksgiving as a wife I imagined making the big meal and sitting around relaxing with my hubby, my in-laws did not like that idea at all. Their idea of our first Thanksgiving should be us coming to their house, eating the food his mother cooked, having the ladies in one room doing the cleanup while the men watched football. Maybe this is the southern way but I am from New England and that is just not my way. When I had a holiday meal I wanted to sit at the same table with my husband not have him in front of the tv with a plate balanced on his lap.
We had our little family and I really wanted to start our family traditions. Thanksgiving was going to be our first official holiday and I was going to do the cooking. This was going to be the first Thanksgiving dinner and I had no clue what I was doing. I searched the internet on how to cook a turkey, how to cook green bean casserole and all the fixings. For someone who really did not cook very much before I think it turned out pretty darn good.
Our first Thanksgiving was small but it was just perfect for us. My in-laws did not appreciate us not coming but we were both very happy that we stayed home and started our own traditions. His family thinks it is me pushing for our traditions but reality is my husband is usually the one that pushes for them. He knows how much tension there is and he would rather be out of the tension and doing things our way.