The statistics for a divorce after a crisis in your life are overwhelming. A crisis, whether it is an internal conflict such as infidelity or something outside of your control, such as a death in the family, this is the time when your marriage may be most vulnerable. Here is some advice on how you can survive the crisis and make your marriage even stronger.
Someone once told me that a crisis in life is just like a hurricane. It is large, loud, very scary and can result in injury or death. I think this is a good comparison. Hurricanes can be survived, especially when someone is prepared and has help and support. They also blow over eventually. What you do when a hurricane hits can determine your survival.
If you are hit with a hurricane approaching when you are out on the roads, what do you do? You keep on driving until you either outrun it or find shelter from the storm. A crisis doesn’t have to mean the end of a marriage. Instead, you can emerge with a new beginning.
One of the toughest things about a crisis in marriage is to see beyond blame and work together. Even situations that are no one’s fault are ripe for applying blame. Let go of the blame and approach the situation as “How can we get through this together?”
Another part of the reaction to a crisis is the need we have to be in control. As with a hurricane, you may protest all that you want but in the end you can’t turn back time, control what you anyone else does or what other people say. All you can do is control your own actions and decisions.
Seek outside help together. Do you remember what happens when hurricane victims are left on their own? Release your desire to work everything out on your own and use whatever positive resources are available to you both.
Have you survived a crisis in your marriage?
Mary Ann Romans writes about everything related to saving money in the Frugal Blog, creating a home in the Home Blog, caring for little ones in the Baby Blog and now relationships in the Marriage Blog. You can read more of her articles by clicking here.
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