Maybe you do not actually believe in magic? I tend to be a little optimistic about such things and I do think there are things that we parents do that can border on the magical realm. There are those “tools” that always seem to bring good results and there are those amazing days when we are in the “zone” and just seem to know what to say and do. How can that not be magic?
We often talk about tricks and tools and what are tricks if not magic? For example, I have found that if I get soft and compassionate when one of my kids is crabby or having an outburst, it almost always changes the tone and course of our interaction. I also know that if I can detach from a stressful interaction, things between us will immediately shift. I know that preparation can almost always make for better outcomes (I am not talking perfection here, just less chaos) and I also know that unconditional love can “cure” just about anything.
All three of my children think that I have psychic powers since I always seem to know what they are up to and what might be motivating their moods. While I cannot explain why this seems to be the case–whether it is because we are bonded or I somehow allow myself to stay in tune and “know” them–it can sometimes feel pretty magical to all of us.
So, if you are doubting your parenting skills or feeling as though you are not always sure of what to do or how to act or react to challenges with your child, why not accept and expect that you have some magical powers? Your kids might already believe you have some magical powers to tap into as a parent, so why not you?
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