Wouldn’t it be nice if romance could always just be a spontaneous thing? That caught up in the moment, swept off your feet feeling of being lost in each other’s eyes is a powerful thing. Unfortunately, life sometimes intrudes on our love lives and leaves us little room for spontaneity. That’s okay. There is nothing wrong with planning for romance when you can’t be spontaneous.
In fact, sometimes planning is the key to success. While winging it can be fun it can also sometimes result in chaos or worse, hurt feelings. If you attempt to surprise your spouse too much, you might find it backfires. What if she simply cannot take off work early? What if he absolutely must finish that project he brought home, even though he would rather spend the time with you?
If you find that obligations are getting in the way of your romance, you may have to pencil it in. That may not sound like much fun, but it’s better than cutting your special outing short or having to forgo it altogether because of pressing duties. It’s great to keep trying for those spontaneous moments, but it doesn’t hurt to plan some special times as well.
To add a little more spice, you can plan the date and time and still add some elements of surprise throughout the day or evening. You can also try to do something really creative and out of the ordinary to keep things fresh and exciting. Make a date to do something neither of you have ever tried before.
Another option is to surprise your spouse by doing something especially for him or her. If she has been talking about a concert, try to pick up tickets, even if there is some other band you’d rather see. Clear the date and time, but don’t tell her where you’re going. Maybe he’s been longing to go to the new exhibit at the art gallery in town. Take him even if you don’t quite “get” the featured artist.
The most important thing is to spend time together and to enjoy each other without the distractions and demands of life, even if that means sometimes you have to schedule your romance.
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