The last group of assets that will be written about in this series speak to the need for children to grow up with a sense of purpose and worth. Parents play an integral role in helping a child to establish their sense of self worth.
The Positive Identity assets include:
• Personal Power
• Self-esteem
• Sense of purpose
• Positive view of personal future
Children need to know that they have control and responsibility for things that happen to them. Of course, this is not always the case in situations of abuse or other external factors. Help your child understand the difference between things they can and cannot control. You can help your child develop this asset by expressing confidence in their abilities, allowing them to do things their own way. Help your child to develop good hygiene. Read about people who overcame very difficult circumstances.
Kids need to feel good about themselves. There are a lot of resources available that explains how to help a child develop a high sense of self-esteem. Personally, I think that in the American culture too much emphasis is placed on forming self-esteem, which is actually creating generations of self-centered individuals. Nevertheless, this asset is important. You can help by accepting your child for who he or she is, give your time and attention to your children, respect and listen to them, and speak positive encouraging words into their lives.
Belief that there is a purpose to life and helping a child understand his or her role in that purpose is extremely important. Help your child to pursue his or her own interests. Serve others. Talk about your dreams and ask your children what their current and future expectations are of life. If you are a family of faith, you can discuss and model your purpose in life in relation to God.
Studies show that more optimistic people live healthier happier lives. No matter what has happened in your life try to maintain a positive outlook for yourself and family. This does not mean you never acknowledge difficulties, just do not dwell on them for a long period. Encourage your children to dream big dreams. Talk with your children about positive things happening in your community. Enjoy life!
I think that last phrase is a great end to a wonderful job. This is my last post for Families.com. I have truly enjoyed blogging in this environment over the past months. It is my hope that in some small way I have been able to add positive value to this community through the Single Parent and Education blogs. Thank you for the honor of allowing me to communicate my thoughts, sharing your comments, and making this a very enjoyable experience.