I am in the stage of life right now where I could easily talk myself out of having another child. As I have blogged about before, it’s hard to know when to have another baby. But, I do know that I want another one. But, there are a few things that worry me.
* Three seems like a crowd. While I have plenty of people in my life that have 3 or more kids, it just seems like a lot of little people to tote around. I envision myself trying to make a simple trip to the grocery store with three kids, and I just want to take a nap.
* Am I too old? While the risks of having complications do increase after 35, and I’m only 33, people all over the world would think I’m crazy for thinking I’m too old. And, I’m not really. Lots of women have babies in their 40s. But, don’t they all have nannies?
* College. Need I say more? I hope all of my children will be college graduates, but affording it is a different issue all together.
* I worry about whether or not it will be hard to get pregnant this time around. With both of my other kids, it was relatively easy to get pregnant. But, things change after every child. What if I don’t get pregnant right away and I waited too long to start trying?
* My own mental health. As a stay at home Mom, I feel like I do OK. I try hard to give my kids a happy childhood, but it does take a toll when they are so young. Will I have enough mental energy to give to another newborn?
Questions like these can easily overwhelm and confuse us and before we know it, we have completely talked ourselves out of it. But, when it comes to becoming a parent for the first time, or the third, you have to have a bigger perspective. Think of your family in the future, not the exhausting “right now”. The midnight feedings will one day be a thing of the past, your children will one day grow up to walk and talk, and play with each other. They will eventually go to school leaving you home just waiting for the moment when they walk in the door again. So, if you are like me and wondering whether or not to do it, put on those rose-colored glasses for just a moment, broaden your view, and you will probably come up with the answer that is right for your family.
I am ready to start trying again for a third, and can’t wait to share my experience with you going through this journey, yet again.
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