I came across this quote and I thought it was appropriate. ‘The less secure a man is, the more likely he is to have extreme prejudices.’ The quote is by Clint Eastwood and is from what I think will be a fun book called ‘The Best Things Ever Said in the Dark. – the wittiest, most provocative quotations from the movies.’
It struck me that there’s a lot of truth in the above quote. How often do you hear a man say, ‘I’m not going to see that! It’s a chick flick.’ This can be especially so when it’s an emotional movie. Or ‘I’m not going to do that. That’s for girls.’ Or ‘That’s women’s work.’ I’m sure many of you know guys who have come out with similar statements at times.
I’m glad Mick doesn’t have these prejudices. He’s secure enough in his manhood that he doesn’t have to put women down and it doesn’t stop him from going to see a movie that some guys would designate a chick flick. In fact he has often been if not the only male in the cinema (as he was when we saw My Sisters Keeper,) then at least one of only a few. As a result we have seen a number of good movies, he has enjoyed as well, together. Think how many pleasurable hours we would have missed out on if he had let prejudices get in the way!
Of course it’s not only men who have prejudices, we women can be just as prejudiced. Sometimes we may not ask our husband or boyfriend to come to something because we assume he won’t be interested. If we asked, we might actually find out the opposite. Similarly guys, your wife might like going to the footy or watching baseball or going to a car show if you asked her.
Really it comes back to communication in marriage and even before marriage. It’s about letting each of us be ourselves free from prejudices put upon us by others who define what men and women do or won’t do according to gender.
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