For her entire life, you toddler has had you all to herself. Depending on her age, she may or may not understand your pregnancy and what it means for your family’s future. Once the new baby is born, however, there’s no question her life is going to change. She may love it and become mommy’s little helper, but what if she has a hard time adjusting? How can you help your toddler adjust to being a big sister or a big brother and help encourage a strong bond between the two new siblings? It starts during your pregnancy, of course.
Take a Family Class. The hospital where I gave birth offered several classes for new families, one of which was obviously on childbirth. They also offered a class that was catered to small children who were about to become older siblings. The class was designed to introduce the concept of a new baby in a non-threatening way. Taking a class will allow your toddler to experience this new concept in the company of other kids her age, as well as her family. It will also allow you to draw on the experience and expertise of those who have been on this road before.
Read a Book. Another fun way to introduce the new baby to the family is through story time. There are many books out there about becoming a big brother or sister. By reading books about welcoming new babies into the family from early on in the pregnancy, you will help your toddler to become familiar with what is about to happen and she may even get excited about it. At the very least, it won’t be such a shock to her.
Daddy Dates. One of the best ways you and your spouse can help your toddler prepare for a new sibling is to schedule special play dates with daddy during the pregnancy. Once the new baby arrives, your time will be monopolized by the new baby. If your toddler is already used to spending lots of one-on-one time with her dad, her routine with him will simply continue once the new baby arrives. You’ll find that her relationship with her dad will become stronger than ever.
Role Play. Introduce your toddler to pregnancy and babies through play. Find a lifelike baby doll and use it to “play” diaper changes, feeding, and other general baby care. Encourage your toddler to be the doll’s “mommy.” Once the new baby arrives, continue to teach nurturing behavior by having your toddler mimic your actions with the new baby with her own doll.
And if all else fails, buy her a puppy to distract her. (Just kidding!)