The quality of your marriage might well depend on whether and in what quantities these other Qs are present. If you or your spouse is any of those mentioned below you might for you marriage’s sake try and eliminate them from your marriage
Querulous
The dictionary definition is complaining or peevish. Do you know someone who is like this, who is always complaining? I do and, no, it’s not Mick or anyone in the family. No matter what anybody does it is never right, never good enough. There’s always something they have to whinge about. It is very wearing and certainly doesn’t make for congenial relationships. You never want to spend time with that person listening to their list of complaints and whines.
Questioning
A person who is always questioning your motives, actions and even your feelings asking for repeated reassurances of love, can also be difficult to live with. It usually means they are insecure in themselves, so a good healthy dose of praise, encouragement and reassurance of love at regular intervals might help. Then perhaps they won’t feel the need to be always questioning where you are, what you have been doing and whether you love them.
Quarrelsome
Some people just love to pick a fight about anything. It is often the person who is querulous and questioning that can be more prone to being quarrelsome. They will argue about anything just for the sake of arguing.
A difference of opinion or argument will happen in all marriages at times and will not hurt a marriage. It may even be better for clearing the air. But an out an out quarrel is another matter. It’s not something you want happening too often.
The person intent on picking quarrels can be extremely difficult to live with. The trouble with the quarrelsome person is that they are so fixated on their own point of view they never listen to anyone else and just carry on with their own argument regardless of what else has been said.
Remove these traits if they exist and you will have a better quality of marriage and more chance of it lasting.
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