The fact that we did not go back to the in-laws house on Christmas Day or stay there overnight on Christmas Eve did not go over well with the extended family. My husband’s family is very set in their ways and they do not want to change for me, that is abundantly clear to me. We survived our first holiday season as a married couple with only a few hurt feelings so that was a slight improvement over our first Christmas.
This is my husband’s second marriage; his first lasted for five years. I was curious if his family treated his first wife the same as I was getting treated. Did she cave and do whatever they wanted for the holidays just to keep peace? I was not really wanting to cave I did give a little but I still wanted our holiday time too.
With Christmas over the next big holiday was New Year’s Eve, luckily for me his mom did not have a tradition for that or I would have had more problems. We got married in 1999 so our first New Year’s Eve was the New Year’s 2000. With all the speculation and rumors about the Millennium celebration we really wanted to do a quiet one. We found a cute bed and breakfast in Marshall Texas and we made it a mini vacation for us. It was a great much needed break for us. We had a romantic Italian dinner grabbed some beverages and went to the room and watched the New Year’s Rockin’ Eve from New York City. When the world did not fall apart at midnight we welcomed our second year as husband and wife, we looked forward to the years we had to come. We were going to start the adoption process soon and we did not know how quickly that would happen so who knows this could have been our last New Year’s without kids.