It’s not uncommon for couples that have been married for several years to drift away from the common interests that they shared to begin with. It’s important to keep what’s important to the two of you from fading into the background as they get caught up in the day-to-day living and rat race of obligations, responsibilities and commitments.
Don’t Forget You Have a Responsibility to Each Other
Rekindling your interest in each other can begin with rediscovering those common interests that brought you together in the first place. Here are some tips to helping you and your spouse rediscover those areas of common interest and to make time for them again:
- Independently, both of you should sit down and create a list of all the activities and interests that two of you have shared before and during your marriage – these kinds of inventories can help you and your spouse identify areas that either or both of you may have been neglecting
- Sit down together and compare notes, think about why you’ve been neglecting these areas of your life together and be realistic – this isn’t about casting blame, it’s about identifying the reasons and the sources of the problem in order to find ways to reinvigorate your interest in shared and joint activities once more
- While you’re talking about your lists and your ideas, discuss which ones you both miss and how you’d like to reincorporate them into your lives – you may even discover that there are new activities you’re both interested in doing
- Make the time spent on a shared activity a priority whether it’s setting aside a date night or an hour every day – don’t put these off because other things are more important – the time you and your spouse spend together is very important to the health of your relationship
- Emphasize shared good times and such because this also gives more than quality time and when you and your spouse have something to laugh and smile about – it increases the health of the overall marriage
How do you and your spouse stay involved in your common ground?
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