There are times when the service that you can give to another is to mourn with them. People will go through difficult situations in which most people feel unable to do anything to really help. This is a time when mourning with those who mourn comes to mind. If you find someone in your ward is in a tragic situation, you may need to mourn with her. Here are four suggestions on how to mourn with those that mourn.
1) You should express your sorrow for the situation. Unless you specifically know from firsthand experience what it feels like to be in that situation, don’t say that you know what it feels like. However you can still express your sorrow for the situation. You can express your willingness to help whenever she may need it.
2) It is important to follow the person’s lead when it comes to discussing the particulars on the situation. This will allow her to talk about it when she is ready. While you shouldn’t bring up the subject, it can be just as hurtful to skirt around the subject and pretend it didn’t happen. If and when someone is ready to talk about it, then listening is one of the best things that you can do.
3) Take time over the next few months to express your love to her. Often we move on and forget the tragedy that this person is still facing and dealing with. Unless our lives are directly affected, it is too easy to forget that someone else may still be struggling. Often just reaching out with expressions of love and concern can help her cope with the loss.
4) Pray for the person. This can make a huge difference. As you pray, you may ask for guidance on how to help, if you receive an answer you should act on your promptings. Prayer is one of the most powerful tools that we have. It is important to take advantage of prayer.
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