Did the title grab your attention? Let me make it clear that I’m not suggesting that religious couples truly don’t like sex. It’s just an argument I frequently hear, especially in the context of marriage debates. It’s usually tossed out there because free love advocates want to paint a picture of people of faith that makes it appear as if they feel sex is bad or dirty.
Simply because people of faith believe that lovemaking should be reserved for the marriage bed, or between one man and one woman, does not mean that they don’t like sex. It also doesn’t mean that they are trying to legislate it. In fact, they’d rather not know about anyone else’s sex life, so those who want religious people to “stay out of our bedrooms” might want to keep such intimacies a little more private. Without the in-your-face tactics and no one would have a reason to respond.
Most religious people would no more investigate another’s bedroom than they would invite someone else into their own. It’s when people insist on loudly promoting their “lovestyles” that people of faith speak up. It’s generally a defensive posture, not a pre-emptive one.
I guess the catchphrase that really bugs me is the “frozen chosen,” as used to describe the religious in terms of sexuality. Apparently, anyone who believes in God and doesn’t defend promiscuity, homosexuality, or other alternative lovestyles is considered frigid. Just because they prefer to keep their love lives private and promote sexual activity as something best shared between a man and a women who have made a lifelong commitment to each other, does not make them frigid.
I bet a lot of couples who practice religion would be surprised to learn how frigid they supposedly are, since they are actively enjoying healthy sex lives. People don’t have to broadcast their preferences in order to find lovemaking enjoyable.