One of the pleasures of being in a marriage is that you always have someone in your corner who knows you well and can love and support you unconditionally despite your little personality quirks. Being able to respect the harmless quirks can bring you closer together and make for less conflict in your marriage.
I’ll give you a couple of good examples.
Although I don’t always like to do it, I am famous for multitasking. I really have to be, since I work at home, and I am the main caregiver for our three children. I often have several things going at once and try to fit five minute tasks in here and there, such as unloading the dishwasher while waiting for the washing machine to fill or opening mail while the oven heats up.
My husband, on the other hand, gets very stressed when he has to concentrate on more than one thing or when he is interrupted in a project. So, if he is putting molding up in the bathroom, he would not appreciate anyone interrupting him to ask what he wants for dinner or mention the fact that the smoke detectors need to be changed. I adapt by knowing to write down anything I need to tell him to review later. And he in turn happily eats anything I cook anyway.
On my side, I enjoy socializing a bit after church, catching up with friends and checking in about service projects. Because of this, my husband usually rounds up the kids and keeps them occupied so I can talk without being interrupted. He makes himself available at odd times so I can attend a meeting, work on a project or bake up dozens of last minute emergency cookies for a Christmas event.
Okay, maybe that doesn’t exactly illustrate a quirk. How about this one. I am terrified of potato eyes. I just get the willies from looking at them. Knowing this, he’ll make to peel the potatoes if they even have a hint of starting to look at me.
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