Our children all have the same biological mother, just different biological fathers. Our two sons were placed in foster care when George was 2 months and Steve was 2 years old. The biological mother had a reunification plan that she had to follow but she disappeared without completing the plan. When she was missing for about a year the state severed her parental rights on them. What the state did not know was when she disappeared she was leaving for a new guy. The new guy helped her create our little Rebecca. Rebecca was removed from her care directly after she was born and for the last year she has been trying to regain custody of her.
The biological mother now knows that we have finalized the adoption of Steve and George and she was not too happy with that. She did not understand why or how the boys could have been adopted without her knowledge. We had explained to her that when you disappear for a year that the state is just not going to leave the kids in limbo waiting for her to reappear and decide that she wants to be a mom.
When she had Rebecca she wanted to fight to regain custody of her. When Rebecca was placed in CPS’s custody the biological mother said that she was going to do whatever she had to do in order not to lose custody of her too. The plan that CPS gave her to follow is called a reunification plan; in the plan she had to attend parenting classes, psychological counseling, maintain a safe home and get a study job. The biological mother decided to go out and get a quickie wedding to better her chances of reunification. However the man that she chooses to marry was abusive and that complicated the reunification plan, the new husband was now going to have to do everything that she had to do in order to maybe get custody of Rebecca.
I feel bad that she lost her kids, I cannot even begin to imagine losing the kids and they are not my biological kids. Just because I felt bad for her it did not mean that I thought she should have custody of Rebecca or any other child for that matter.