In my local newspaper, I stumbled across a little 4-inch article tucked away in the business section, suggesting that those who utilize salesmanship and sales communication skills in their more personal relationships have better luck in love. Here are the tips suggested to take one from the board room to other personal interactions:
First, it is suggested that a person doesn’t put too much information about themselves into the first date or first meeting, or even the first introduction. It comes across as sounding too self-absorbed and self-centered. This means that exchanging lists of “I’m the type of person who…” is not recommended–neither is the laundry list of accomplishments, failed relationships and family baggage.
Next, instead of offering a list of credentials and character traits, a person should “sprinkle” information about themselves throughout conversations, e-mails, interactions, etc. This way, you are building or constructing an understanding of yourself comfortably, without presenting a boring, constructed package.
Also, this article suggests that instead of declaring your personality or “credentials,” you should show others who you are through story-telling and the weaving of stories and history over time. And, finally, it is recommended that you don’t make any promises you can’t keep–like the proverbial “used car salesman” image, you don’t want to promise the world when you won’t be able to deliver–it sets up distrust and will give you a quick reputation for being unreliable.
I couldn’t help but get a little chuckle out of this little blurb of an article. It seems there are opportunities for self improvement around every corner (and in every publication.) Of course, one doesn’t have to go far without receiving advice on social skills, communication tips and how to win friends, woo lovers, and make sales–and this article, wrapped everything up together by offering advice on how to use salesmanship to improve one’s social life!