As single parents, many of us have a tendency to schedule everything–we keep calendars and lists to make sure we get everyone to soccer practice, piano lessons, make those work meetings, and ensure that we don’t run out of milk and bread. But, one of the things that can get shoved to the back burner is a little play. It might help to schedule in play time–both with our child or children and for ourselves–just as we would schedule in all those other things we do to keep our families thriving.
I know it might seem a little square and stilted–just like those marriage advice columns that tell couples to schedule sex. But, in reality, the things we don’t set aside definite time for are usually the very things that we don’t get around to doing. I know that I have a tendency to say that “if it isn’t written on my list, it won’t get done.” Well, that includes making time to hang out and “play” with my kids, or take myself to a movie, or get together with cherished friends too. As one of those people who tends to want to get the required tasks done first, I can fill my days with tasks and wonder why I am feeling worn out and not having any fun.
So, why not schedule in a play “date” with each child once a week. Just write it into your calendar in PEN and make sure that it doesn’t get crossed out for something that seems more functional. Schedule in a monthly dinner out with friends. Turn off the TV in the evenings and play cards or puppets with a smaller child or take a teenager out for coffee. Play and relaxation are just as important as getting all the “have tos” done and just because we are hard-working single parents, it doesn’t mean we don’t need to connect with ourselves and our kids on a playful level too.
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