I was horrified when I read this article about a man who infected the woman he claimed to love, and who he later married, with HIV. According to reports , he did not tell her he had the virus when the couple first ‘began a sexual relationship in 1996.’
Instead he knowingly and willingly passed the disease on to the woman he supposedly loved without telling her. By the time she found out, it was too late. This has to be the height of selfishness on this man’s part. Obviously Judge Thomas Wodak thought so too, He said ‘the fact the man had unprotected sex with his now former partner on multiple occasions and then lied to her, showed a “contemptible and callous disregard for the welfare of the woman you professed to love.” Obviously he’d never heard the words ‘love, honor and cherish.’
The guy had been infected as a teenager by a blood transfusion, so he had plenty of time to come to terms with his situation and to own up to the true state of his condition but didn’t. He only confessed he had after she contracted the disease and even then he didn’t admit the whole truth.
The 39 year old man pleaded ‘guilty to recklessly engaging in conduct endangering life.’ He was jailed for five years. But could end up out on parole in three, while her life is wrecked. She cannot work, she cannot have children. She cannot even sign her own name.
Marriage to me is about loving and caring for your spouse not recklessly endangering their health and life by such an uncaring act. It appears all he was thinking about was his own sexual gratification. That is not love. It’s not even close.
Love is about caring for the other person and putting their needs before your own. The marriage lasted six years. It any wonder that the marriage did not survive. when it was founded and based on selfishness and complete dishonesty.
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