I was out to dinner with a good friend the other night. We have one of those relationships where we are very open with each other. We’re blunt and we tell it like it is. As we discussed some of the men I had been dating post divorce he said, “You know what your problem is? You sell yourself short.” I hadn’t really thought about it, but as I was driving home that night I realized just how right he was. For some reason I thought that just because I was divorced and had a child that that made me less deserving of a good guy. To someone else it may sound a little crazy, but to a single mom it is a very real feeling, one that we often don’t even consciously realize we are feeling.
This friend pointed out to me that I had been dating scum, because I didn’t feel like the good guys would want me anymore. I sought out men that had their own baggage because I hadn’t fully come to terms with my own. I felt like somehow I was less desirable than the other girls because of my circumstances. I now realize just how wrong I was. Just because I’m divorced and have a child doesn’t mean I’m any less of a catch. Don’t get me wrong, it takes a special guy to take on a child, it is a lot of responsibility and a lot of work, but for the right guy Logan is just a bonus.
I’ve come to realize that I deserve better than this. Enough with these low life guys I’ve been dating. We all have a little baggage we’re carrying around, but I’m not ashamed of mine. I am who I am because of that “baggage,” and believe it or not there are plenty of guys out there who think they would be pretty lucky to have me, baggage and all! Time to quit selling yourself short, we all deserve better!