Many times in a marriage, one spouse is more in need of physical relations than the other. This can create some major issues, if it isn’t dealt with immediately. Ignoring the problem will not make it go away, but it might lead a partner to stray. That’s one of the excuses some men and women use when they’re caught in bed with another person. “It didn’t mean anything. It was just sex,” you often hear that line in movies.
The last thing you want is for your partner to cheat just to get more sex. If your partner is sex starved, you have to find a way to meet his or her physical needs. It may not be possible to get your libido to match your partner’s, but making yourself available for more physical intimacy would be a first step; however, it needs to be noted that physical intimacy in a marriage should be enjoyable and satisfying to both partners. If only one is enjoying the act while the other one is mentally writing out a grocery list, you have a problem.
Here are ten guidelines to consider with your partner.
1. Discuss your needs openly and honestly.
2. Talk about ways you can improve your physical relationship.
3. Because you’re both busy, it might be necessary to work out a schedule. This may not seem very sexy or romantic, but for some couples, it’s the only way to fit it in.
4. Try to be spontaneous whenever possible.
5. Find new ways of enjoying physical intimacy.
6. If a physical issue is the problem, see your doctor.
7. If a psychological block is the problem, seek counseling.
8. Try to incorporate a sense of sexiness outside the bedroom and all day long with your mate in mind.
9. Whenever possible, take day and night trips together to hotels.
10. Try to be a giver and not just a taker during sex.
There’s no reason to be sex starved in a marriage as long as good communication exists and your partner understands you and your needs and vice versa. Remember, love is the ultimate aphrodisiac.