Christmas is supposedly a time of good will, but that’s often not what we see. Sometimes it can be people being harried and hassled and getting snappy at others. Others times it can be people trying to take advantage of others by hoping they’ll be busy enough or distracted enough to hope they won’t notice that they overcharged them. That happened to us while Christmas shopping twice yesterday. Was it con-incidence? I admit to being more than a little suspicious since neither shop was particularly busy at the time. It just seemed a little too convenient for my liking. In each case we got it sorted out.
Other times sales people have given the wrong amount of change. It made me think how easy it is to short change our spouse.
How can you short change your spouse?
Here are some ways:
By not showing them every day that they are the most important person in the world.
By not listening to them, and always being too busy to take that time to show them you value them and their opinions.
By switching off from what they are saying or what they are interested in because you’re so focused on your own projects and agenda.
By not catering to their needs.
By not showing physical affection.
By not being prepared to say ‘I’m sorry’ even if you don’t feel you are in the wrong in a disagreement. The main thing is not who is right and who is wrong but getting the relationship back into harmony.
By not saying ‘I love you’ often enough. On the radio recently I heard as psychologist saying that we can make such a difference to our lives and our marriage by not letting ‘I love you’ be the last thing we say at night but instead starting each day telling your marriage partner how much you love them. Why not try it for a while and wee what a difference it can make in your marriage.
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