I am trying to help bring to light the major need for people to adopt from the United States foster care system. I know there are some concerns that people have when they think of adoption. The first one that I want to talk about is that they want a newborn only and they do not think they can get a newborn from the foster care system. I personally know that is not true.
There are a great many infants in the foster care system. They may have been given up by their mother, turned into a safe site through the Baby Moses act or the state may have taken the child because of conditions within the home.
A couple that I knew from my old work wanted to adopt and they had seen how great ours turned out and put in for an infant. They were put in for a baby as soon as they completed their home study and within a month they had a red headed baby boy placed with them; six months later they adopted the baby. The funniest part the heart mommy had bright red hair; it was just the way it worked out.
If you only want an infant because you don’t think a toddler would bond with you then consider this one of our sons was three when he was placed with us. He is twelve now and you would never know that this boy had ever had another family. He does not remember any of the abuse and neglect that he endured during his first years of life. He does not remember getting his nose broken when he was two. He only remembers being with us, our home, our family. He knows he is adopted all our kids do because we don’t hide it from them.
If you love a child you can and will bond with the child and the child will know that you love them. Some kids take a little longer to bond with you; some may take more work than others. Let’s face it though any kid takes work, every kid does something that makes you pull your hair out but at the end of the day you still love them and they still love you.