I tend to focus on the struggles, the trials, and the stressful tribulations of single parenting. I don’t mean to, especially since my experience as a single parent is generally an incredibly positive one. But, I do relate to how challenging it can be just to keep all the balls in the air. It is nice to remind ourselves; however, that single parent can also be an incredibly pleasant experience as well…
We have talked about the joys of single parenting, and parenting in general in this blog and others—but I do think that single parenting can get a bad rap as a hard, painful, stressful, negative experience. In reality, many of us find that not having to share our children’s love and attention with another parent in the home, being able to be in charge and set the pace and expectations for our families, and other little details really do make up for some of the hardship. For those of us who came from unhappy, dangerous, or otherwise unsavory situations prior to becoming a single parent, single parenthood can be a joyous relief—a chance to heal, get our lives under control and rebuild damaged self-esteem. It can also be a healing and safe time for our children if they have come from a dangerous situation as well.
Some single parents become parents by choice via adoption or birth after longing for a child for a very long time. What a joyous experience then parenting can be at last! A dream comes true and a chance to share all that love that has been saved up for years and decades. Single parenthood really can be a pleasant, life-affirming and loving opportunity—it is just all in how we look at it. While we are struggling to make ends meet and face the challenges of solo parenting and family life, we can also take time out to experience the joys and pleasures and focus on all the pleasantries and love that come with the territory too.
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