I’m always trying to look on the bright side, even when it comes to being divorced. I never imaged that I would be a single mother but I have to admit that I’ve grown in to it and I’m actually enjoying it, most of the time.
One of the joys of being divorced is not having to make two families happy for the holidays. I remember the days of going to my parents house and then going to his families for dinner later. All this really meant was that we ate way too much and everyone was cranky, including Hailey.
Now I don’t have to do that. I get to choose where I want to go for the holidays, who I want to spend them with, and I don’t have to worry about hurting anyone’s feelings.
My parents live 2000 miles away but both of my sisters live here, we usually alternate houses but this year we all just wanted to do our own dinner, with our own family. One of my sisters became a grandma this year so they had dinner with just their daughter, son in law and grandbaby. Hailey and I decided we wanted to stay home, so that’s what we did.
We donned silly aprons and Santa hats, put on some music, took some goofy pictures of each other and made dinner together. When dinner and cleanup were done we stretched out in the family room and watched a movie. It was wonderful, no drama, no expectations, no disappointments and best of all, no cranky kid.
Yes holidays are a time for family but as a single parent sometimes I need that time to slow down and just be with my girl. The time we have together is so sporadic that I really enjoy when we can have an entire day with no obligations, nothing to do but hang out in our pajamas and eat lots of pie.
Life certainly is very good.