There are so many books on marriage that it’s hard to know where to begin looking. Which ones cater to you beliefs and thoughts around specific ideas? For some of the best marriage books we went online and read reviews of three of the current best selling books, so you don’t have to. Happy Reading!
FIT TO BE TIED by Bill Hybels.
Bill and Lynne Hybels pull from their own private experiences and consistent faith in order to write a book together which will act as a guide for finding consistent happiness as a couple. Whether you are just meeting someone for the first time and want to know if that “‘spark” you feel is real to tackling some of the most common mistakes new couples make in their first few years of marriage-that ultimately lead to divorce if you don’t know what to look for- The Hybels book contains everything from checklists for meeting, and making yourself worthy of, the right person to how to court your spouse once you’ve been married, to how to keep the marriage healthy.
HIS NEEDS HER NEEDS by Willard F. Harley Jr.
We all know that marriage only works when each both of you take the time to think about each other’s needs and make an effort to be a part of making those needs happen. In His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley takes a look at the ten most vital needs of couples as individuals and then as couples. The book is designed as a deterrent to extra marital affairs and contains such gems as how become more irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively. This has been revised and updated in reflection of today’s soaring divorce rate in hopes that the more modern version will appeal to newly married couples as well as long time married couples.
THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES…by Gary Chapman
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause, even though as a couple our hurt feelings don’t allow us to see the problems for what they are- we speak different love languages. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch, in that order, the book is written to discuss and reflect on each of these love languages in turn and teaches couples how to identify and work within each of our love languages and sense the other persons needs within the relationship. In a friendly and humorous writing style he discusses each in turn: Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their “love tank.” (This is a direct quote from the book.) Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Use the questionnaires in the back of the book in order to determine your and your spouses personal love language.