Have you ever noticed in the movies how the guy always knows the right thing to say? You know what I mean, the romantic words, the flowery speeches you wish your husband would say and doesn’t. Why is that? The reason is because life is not a movie.
In a script the character is saying lines the scriptwriter or scriptwriters have spent a long time carefully crafting to get the words just right. The actor and director have spent time making sure the words sound natural. Real life doesn’t work as neatly as movies or as it does for the character in a romance novel.
Your husband will not always say what you want them to say, because they don’t have people getting paid to write their lines for them. They often won’t say the romantic sentiments expressed in greeting cards, or in a novel. They won’t make the big romantic gestures. But sometimes, they do.
Treasure the moments when they do and don’t fret over the times when they don’t. It’s like that song from ‘The King and I- Something Wonderful.’ The times when he does say exactly what you want to hear or makes the romantic gesture, let it be enough. Don’t expect it all the time. While we’re on the subject, how long since you said something wonderful to him, something that would brighten his day?
Yesterday we dropped our dog off to be clipped. Mick suggested we take some time out together while we were waiting to go back and pick her up. We went and got a coffee, and enjoying the cool breeze, we sat and looked out at the various shades of teal, turquoise and deep blue of the water. We looked at paintings by a local artist that don’t quite capture the beauty in front of us, because they weren’t three dimensional and as rich as the scene before us.
Holding hands, we walked along the beachfront, watching people kayaking on the water or swimming in the bay. It was a lovely interlude in a day of otherwise working and one of the something wonderful moments where it was enough just to rejoice in being together.
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