What happens when you decide to live together, then you get engaged, but you realize this person may not be the one for you after all?
Do you break up? Or do you take a break?
In Spencer Pratt and Heidi Montag’s case things are further complicated by the fact their relationship has unfolded under the public eye on the show the Hills.
Or has it?
As my fellow blogger Libby Pelham reported, even a costar on the show questioned whether the relationship was real or was for ratings.
My husband thinks it’s all fake. I think if their relationship is real and Spencer is serious about Heidi, she had better watch out. He’s already exhibited signs of domestic violence.
Not that he’s physically abusive towards Heidi, but domestic violence is about more than that. For instance, he’s controlling, manipulative, and extremely selfish. What Spencer wants, Spencer gets –and it doesn’t matter what he has to do or who he has to hurt to get it.
He sure hasn’t shown Heidi much respect –which is part of the reason their relationship is on such rocky ground.
He asked her to marry him, even surprised her with a nice ring, but didn’t:
(a) introduce her to his parents,
(b) even tell his parents about the upcoming marriage,
(c) respect her wishes for an actual wedding and tried to encourage her to elope. (To the point he packed her bags and made reservations for them in Vegas, without her knowing. He just expected her to take off right then and there after work and get hitched!)
These are among the more major signs he’s exhibited of not taking the engagement seriously. After all, if it’s so easy to get married (i.e. just running off and eloping), it’ll be that easy to get out of it too.
Heidi –finally!– seems to be catching on. In the season finale she decided to leave. Or, as they put it, give each other space. (They’d had a big argument, Spencer left without telling her where he was going and stayed away for a while, all because he felt she needed space.)
She didn’t appreciate that or want space –then. Now she does and has given Spencer his.
Time –-and the new season– will tell if space will lead to breaking up, or just a break.
Question to Readers
Did your relationship ever warrant a break before you were married?