Falling in love is easy. ‘Staying in love, creating a love that last, is the tough part.’ These were words a mother said to her son who was soon to be married. I read them this week in a novel by Marie Bostwick, called A Thread So Thin. Just because it is a novel the words came from doesn’t mean there’s not a lot of truth in them.
In fact a lot of the advice about love and marriage handed out in this novel rings true. You suspect many of them came from actual conversations. I’d be interested to ask the author that question. Because that’s what fiction is all about reflecting aspects of life to us, either real life or the way we would like it to be.
The interesting thing in this book was the way she saw love as a progression. In the beginning it’s all about how the other person makes you feel. But then the more you come to know the person and to love the person, the more you want to please them.
You want to do the things that will make them happy. Like last night. Unless there are extenuating circumstances, Mick and I usually go to bed together. We’d been watching a TV show but then I wanted to finish my book. I had about 80 pages to go. Mick was happy to sit and read too, so I could finish my book before we went to bed. Yes, it was the book I mentioned here.
Sometimes it’s only a little thing like changing your own needs or wants to accommodate the other person and make them happy. Other times it can be a major decision, like moving somewhere you don’t want to live because it is better for your spouse’s career.
Whether it’s a major decision or a little one, the important thing is that each of us is seeking the best for our spouse. If they are also seeking the best for us, you end up with a marriage made in heaven.
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