Why can’t we all just get along? Words made famous for a different battle but apply just as much to people after a divorce.
Divorce is one of the worst things you can go through, for you and your children. Even worse though are the battles that often continue after the divorce is final.
Every day I see people who have turned completely against their ex’s and are trying to drag their children with them. How is it fair to a child to talk negatively about their other parent. I’ve heard parents tell their children that their father doesn’t love them anymore. Really? This is in your child’s best interest?
We all want to protect our children and if you really believe that something harmful is going on then by all means, stand up for them. If you are using every little thing to prove your ex is not a fit parent, just so you can win, then your children lose.
A man I work with is fighting very hard to keep his kids from his ex wife. It seems she got remarried and he doesn’t like it. I understand not wanting someone else parenting your children but when you get a divorce, there is always a chance your ex will remarry.
I thought this man was a good father, very involved with his kids, supporting them, active in their lives. Lately however, I’ve been seeing another side of him.
One of his kids got hurt on a treadmill at his mother’s house. Yes, he should not have been playing on the treadmill, he should have been supervised better, but we all know kids will be kids. That includes getting hurt even when you are standing right there.
This man has started a blog with pictures of his injured son, trying to prove his ex wife is unfit, so he and his new wife can get custody.
I feel so sorry for his boys. Who are they supposed to believe? The mother who loves them or the father who very publicly slams his ex wife and her new husband?
It’s all about the kids and what’s best for them. We are the adults and we need to learn to get along. At one time we loved this person enough to marry and have children with them. If we love our children we want them to feel loved and protected and not feel like they have to choose sides.