Tag Archives: Adoptive Parent

How I Became Your Mother: The Story of Joe and Eddie

Continued from An Adoptive Mother’s Letter to Her Daughter: The Journey of How I became Your Mother. What started as a letter to Makala has turned into a journey of an adoptive mother. It is clear the words I have written so far are too many–and complex for a child of 9-years. They will be here, however and live longer than I do. Even if she doesn’t understand the meaning of these words today, I hope in the future she will see that all of this was about love. Makala writing to you has made me understand my whole life … Continue reading →

An Adoptive Mother’s New Years Resolutions 2006

1) To remember at all times “adoption” was an event that happened and not a label for my children. I do not introduce my biological children as my C-section babies and I will not introduce my little ones as my adopted children. 2) To take joy in the unique qualities and attributes my children have received from the biological family. And, to occasionally mention, to my children, in a positive way where those qualities and attributes must have come from. 3) To teach all of my children families are made many ways and how our family was put together has … Continue reading →

Establishing a Support System Article #2: Safety and Emergency Planning For Adoptive Families.

Establishing a Support System Article #2 During the adoption home study many families have a home safety inspection completed by a social worker or another certified person. This very basic check covers the minimum safety concerns and issues all families face. Self sufficient families with a firm support system will have a safety and emergency plan and be ready in the event of sudden injury, illness or other emergency. Not every adoptive family is required to take First Aid and C.P.R. however every parent really should know the basics. During training the First Aid guide is typically provided as part … Continue reading →

All I want for Christmas is a Forever Family .

Tonight as we tuck our children in and remind them to fall asleep quickly so Santa will visit, our children will sleep in peace knowing the morning will bring gifts they have wished for. Our children will know that Santa won’t be leaving rocks or coal because as loving parents we have done our best to build their self esteem and over all they have been more nice than naughty. As our children are tucked in to their beds and sleep with visions of sugar plums dancing in their heads many other children tonight will hope Santa brings them but … Continue reading →

A Very RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) Holiday.

There may not be too many of us who are parents of a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder. But for those of us who are I thought I would share my Survival Guide for the Holidays as the Adoptive mother of a RAD kid. Secrets and Presents: Due to the fact that our children are hyper-vigilant it is advised to keep all gifts at a different location such as a storage room, or family members house as long as it is a family member the RAD kid will not visit at any time before the gift giving moment arrives. Do … Continue reading →

Deciding Which Path to Adoption was right for us.

When we were doing our one attempt at InvetroFertilazation we were also investigating adoption on the side. We knew there were many options and that each one had its pro’s and con’s. We were pushing 40 years old and we also knew we didn’t actually have to adopt a newborn. In some ways we felt that adopting a new born might be a little selfish given our ages. It was also one of the reasons we chose to not pursue IVF or a donor egg. That opened up the option of considering International Adoption. We investigated it and found that … Continue reading →

Our Third Christmas as a Forever Family.

It is amazing and sometimes hard to believe this year is only our third Christmas together as a family. The other night daddy was talking and he was just sure it was our fourth, but had to concede it is the third because Jeremiah is only turning 4. Many people have told me that it is the Third year when things start to feel “regular” and I am beginning to believe this might be true. Things just seem normal now and like we have always been a team side by side. We have made some history as a family and … Continue reading →