Tag Archives: Judging

Quick to Judge

I’ll admit it; if I see a toddler running around at the park wearing shorts and a t-shirt when it’s cloudy and 50 degrees out, I judge. Ditto when I spy a baby wearing nothing but green tinsel and a shamrock deely- bopper on Thanksgiving. Just call me Judgey Judgerton. They say parents are the worst offenders when it comes to judging their peers; however, I believe habitually jumping to conclusions about random people and situations is universal and not exclusive to those who procreate. Take for example the brouhaha surrounding actress Busy Philipps.  A few days ago, the TV … Continue reading →

What Do You See?

What do you see when you look at your spouse? The way we see a person often determines the way we respond to them and treat them. If we think someone is judging us or looking down on us or finding fault with us, we are more likely to respond by becoming defensive. Putting on an act to cover our insecurities is another way people often respond in such a scenario. What you think and feel and see when you look at your spouse matters. Do you see someone you love and someone who is interesting? Do you, despite the … Continue reading →

Because I’m a Perfect Mother . . .

Back before I had children, or rather, back when I had one child, a sweet little girl who never caused me any trouble (once she stopped waking up at one in the morning and screaming for an hour) I would see parents with their children on leashes and I would think, “How barbaric! I can’t believe any parent would do such a thing, treating their little darling like a dog. My children will never be put on a leash.” The other day, I sent my husband down to Wal-Mart to buy a leash. You see, last week my precious, well-behaved … Continue reading →

Acknowledging what is Happening is Different from Judging

As small business owners, we come in contact with all sorts of different people. It can be a real test to our social skills and our ability to suspend judgment and deal with a diverse group of individuals. We still need to be able to evaluate what is going on, however, and make decisions in regards to our customers, clients, colleagues, etc. It might be helpful to remember that observing, reporting and acknowledging what is going on is different from being judgmental. Let me explain: If you are talking about a particularly challenging customer, it is one thing to say: … Continue reading →

Judging Your Child’s Friends by How They Look

Most of us want our child to have great friends–we know how much better friends can make life and we also understand that socializing and social development is important. Unfortunately, we don’t always warm up to our children’s friends–we wonder if they are a good influence, the right “sort” of people and whether or not they are adding or subtracting from our child’s life. While every person our child chooses may not be who we would choose, we still have to be careful about judging our child’s friends based on how they look or what they wear. Judging and labeling … Continue reading →

I’d Never Do That!

Have you ever watched people yelling at their kids or arguing with their spouse, in a public place and thought I’d never do that? Or seen someone react to a generous offer by brushing the person’s generosity aside with a curt ‘No, I’m okay,’ and think I’d never do that? Or hear someone pay a compliment to another and hear it brushed aside by the pious comment, ‘It’s the Lord doing it.’ Do you ever see Christians in the news for all the wrong reasons as mentioned in the blog I read this morning about ‘Christians behaving badly’ and think … Continue reading →

Should You Be Judged By Your Spouse’s Behavior or Choices?

So I was reading in the paper this weekend that Hillary Clinton is dancing around addressing her husband’s record in the White House. I’ve read editorials that cite Hillary with contempt for the things that Bill did. There were also a few op-ed pieces that wanted to take Hillary to task for Bill Clinton policies. Now I realize this is politics and they’ll pick on you for what your grandmother’s boyfriend’s best friend did thirty years before you were born when it comes to politics – the worse it makes you look, the better to smear you with. But should … Continue reading →

Making Snap Judgments

How often do you judge others by appearances and first encounters with them? Because we’re going to be leaving soon and moving to a new area, I’ve been thinking a lot about the prospect of meeting new people. I know an inherited trait I have is that I am always been quick to sum people up and form judgments about others. Years ago, when I became a leader at a BSF interdenominational bible study group, I had one woman come into the group. Sad to say my first impression was, ‘this woman is a nut.’ Over time, the Lord showed … Continue reading →

When Friends Judge Your Kids (or Your Parenting)

Everybody is an expert, right? Especially when it comes to parenting (or work, housekeeping, dating, marriage, etc.)! Actually, I’m being a little over-the-top, here, but the reality is that as parents, we are sometimes in the position of feeling judged by family and friends. In my own situation now, my kids are no longer cute. In fact, they can be downright snarky, unpleasant, gangly, and rude. They are teenagers, for goodness sake. Of course, I also think they are amazing and fascinating and energizing and I am enjoying watching them struggle and evolve into individual adults. I do have some … Continue reading →

Should Christians Get Tattoos or Piercing?

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In addition to the question of whether Christians are justified in getting tattoos and piercing, I’d like also to keep in mind other types of permanent procedures that some would go as far to suggest is mutilation. Appearances have evolved even in many Christian churches as they have in secular society. It’s not for me to suggest what is right or wrong when the apparel remains modest and gender specific as the Bible states. But what about fashion that is relatively permanent like tattoos and piercing along with more severe disfigurements? Some argue that our flesh will perish anyway and … Continue reading →