Tag Archives: Self Worth

Who Are We Trying to Please?

I am the queen of trying to please those around me. I want my coworkers to think I’m great. I want my children to think I’m the best Mom in the world. I want my husband to admire my cooking. I want my friends to think I have it all together. For me, it is very important not to disappoint those around me. Yet, how often do I look at trying to please the most important person of all? My Heavenly Father. Recently, I read a great talk that appeared in the January 2012 Ensign. It is titled, “Look Up” … Continue reading →

Teaching Self Value to Young Women

One of the most important things we can teach our young women is to realize their infinite worth and divine nature. Society as a whole degrades the value of women in caring for others and valuing women for their kind natures. It is important for all women to feel their importance both as individuals and as members of the church. Whether you are a parent or a church leader there are ways that you can help your young women to feel their worth. One is to treat them with love and respect at all times. Let your daughter know that … Continue reading →

An Introspection

As a mother, and as a member of the church, it is easy to feel guilty for things, which you really shouldn’t. Often though striving to do our best it is easy to fall short of our own expectations. We may simply see that we stopped ten feet (or a hundred) short of the finish line, but fail to look back and see the twenty miles that we have run. The journey to perfection is a road that we must keep climbing on. Sometimes it is important to look back and see the positive changes and the growth that you … Continue reading →

The Strength of The Ego

Did you know there are studies out there that indicate a man’s ego is not as strong as a woman’s? What the studies indicate is that if your husband were to have lunch with an ex-girlfriend in the general course of activities, you would be less likely to feel threatened by it. If you had lunch with an ex-boyfriend, your husband is more likely to feel threatened and intimidated by it. What Does Our Ego Do? Our ego is what plays host to our self-worth and our self-confidence. The male ego is considerably more fragile than the female ego because … Continue reading →

Too Much Emotional Baggage? Consider Unpacking

Do you remember the old question that they used to ask at the airport when you were checking in for your flight? Pre-9/11 the question was always; did you pack your own bags? Has anyone, but you handled your bags prior to arrival here? The correct answer to this question that they were looking for was yes; you packed your own bags. So let me ask you this, did you pack your emotional bags? Has anyone, but you handled your bags prior to getting to where you are right now in life? If you can’t answer yes to these questions, … Continue reading →

Marriage Tips: Worth

Always try to treat your spouse in a way that makes him or her feel like a person worthy of great esteem. When you love somebody, their sense of worth should be just as important to you as your own. Remember that this person you share your life with is a unique and wonderful individual with exceptional qualities. If not, you wouldn’t have married him or her. Also remember that you are just as exceptional and that you are worthy of love and happiness. You are not “nothing” without your spouse, no matter how great a team the two of … Continue reading →

Practical Ways to Build Self-Esteem (3)

In our last article on Self-Esteem, we looked at the cases of Lani and Kane. Lani was attractive but believed she wasn’t. Kane was a success in anyone’s book: except his own. Let’s find out why both Lani and Kane have such a warped sense of their own self-worth. Lani’s mother and older sister were both very attractive women. From an early age, Lani “knew” that her mother and sister were good-looking, but as she herself didn’t receive the same sort of admiring comments as she grew up, Lani made the obvious (to her) conclusion: she was unattractive. Lani’s mother … Continue reading →

Accepting Ourselves

About a year ago one of my sisters came to visit me. She kept asking my daughter if she was fat. My sister said she asked her because she knew that children were always honest. When my sister was about to leave my daughter turned to me and said, “Mommy, I’m too fat.” I think that my daughter taught my sister and me something very important that day. She didn’t care what my sister looked like, but because my sister was so conscious of it, my daughter began to pay attention to it. Children understand what truly matters. Little children … Continue reading →