Our Night in the Hotel

The day that we met our soon to be sons’ was one of the best days of our lives. We played games, had snacks and got acquainted with our new kids. We had a chance to talk to the foster parents to see what they liked and did not, their schedules etc. It was almost like we were getting ready to babysit 2 kids and their parents were telling us the rules. When it came time for the older child to go back to his foster home we packed up the 14 month old and took him back to the … Continue reading

I am Going to be a Mom

So we got the news last night that we were going to be parents of a three year old son and a 14 month old son. I can hardly believe it I was going to be a Mom!!! The excitement of seeing their pictures the next day made it impossible to sleep. When the email came from our case worker they sent it to my husband’s work. When he got the pictures he was so excited he could barely speak. He sent me the email and I opened it up to see my sons, they had big brown eyes and … Continue reading

Adoption Match Meeting

The adoption process is nothing like you see in the movies, there was no big home where you walked in and pick what child you would like to call your own. The closest comparison I can think of is like when you are trying to buy a house. The family who would like to adopt is asked to create a one page flyer that talks about your family, what your home life is like and what you have to offer a child. When a child comes up for adoption placement that matches the criteria that you have given, they give … Continue reading

Adoption Loss

Throughout the adoption process, when people heard that we were adopting they automatically looked at us like we were defective. They would ask if we had tried hormones, in-vitro, or if my husband was not able to make babies. There are no biological reasons why we went the adoption route. The choice to adopt was just that for us, a choice. We made a conscious choice to prevent ourselves from getting pregnant; we made the choice to adopt as a couple from the beginning of our marriage. You would be surprised at how differently families that adopt are treated compared … Continue reading