Tag Archives: anger

Angry and Helpless as My Mom Loses It

As I wrote in a recent article, my mom is beginning to battle Old Timer’s (a.k.a. Dementia or Alzheimer’s) like her mother did, which makes me angry. But I’m not angry at the disease. I’m angry about a lot of other things. Angry at Losing Her Now As I commented on one of Aimee’s articles about this issue I had to stand by and lose my grandma to this disease before she actually passed. Now it’s happening with my mom. I’m angry about that. Angry at My Mom I’m angry at my mom because she refuses to take steps to … Continue reading →

Happily Ever After

You fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. Right? Wrong! Statistics show that many marriages in Australia end in divorce and those who divorce once often end up remarried and divorced again. No doubt it is similar in other countries. So what has gone wrong? Could it be the attitude with which people approach marriage? It’s almost like some people approach it with the idea that it can easily be undone if it doesn’t work out. And we have the examples of so many celebrities who marry and divorce in a short space of time and move … Continue reading →

Cut Cholesterol With Your Mind

More proof that mind really is stronger than matter: a recent study from Oregon State University found that keeping your cool can keep your cholesterol at a healthy level. More than seven hundred men took part in a study from Oregon State University focusing on staying calm in stressful situations. Those men who managed to stay calm when provoked kept their HDL (good) cholesterol levels steady. Some even experienced an elevation in HDL cholesterol levels! You definitely want to keep good cholesterol around. Men in the study who didn’t stay calm had lower HDL levels and higher triglycerides. Neither group … Continue reading →

Expressing Anger Can Help You Move On

Can enough be said about anger? As a person, a parent, and someone trying to deal with a child’s anger–this can be one of the most difficult emotions to process and deal with in a healthy way. The first time our 2 year-old gets angry and has an outburst, it can be overwhelming and embarrassing; when we feel our own selves getting angry at that sweet child we adore, we can feel like we need to bury or repress it. Anger can feel unpredictable and unreasonable. So, what is a parent to do? First of all, learning how to express … Continue reading →

Dealing with a “Hot Headed” Client or Customer

Not everyone we deal with in our home businesses is going to be pleasant and easy-going—sooner or late we will find ourselves having to work with someone who is more argumentative, passionate, or what one might call “hot headed.” Should we just avoid or eliminate anyone who is incredibly hot headed, or are there ways to work with these super-passionate people? One of the things I have learned is that there are different kinds of “hot headed”—there is the angry, negative, argumentative person, but there are also people who are reactionary, and those who feel really passionate about things and … Continue reading →

Saying Things You Regret

Yesterday, I wrote about different ways of coping with the typical anger and frustration that parenting can bring. Of course, we are not all perfect and as flawed human beings we don’t always handle things with our children as we would like to. There are those times when we have outbursts or we say things we either immediately regret, or come to regret later on. What can be done about those times when we let slip things we wish we hadn’t? Many of us parents have the best of intentions, yet we mess up and do things we regret. It … Continue reading →

What Do You Do With Anger and Frustration?

Parenthood and family life are not nonstop bliss—even the sweetest, most angelic children can cause a parent a bit of frustration. The important thing is that we find healthy or reasonable ways of coping when we feel angry or frustrated. I tend to be a “cleaner”—I clean, organize, dredge out closets, wash rugs, etc. when I am dealing with family frustrations. What do you do? I have a friend who exercises away her parental stress. I know if I call and she is on the treadmill that there are likely family frustrations going down in her neck of the woods. … Continue reading →

Is It Okay To Be Angry With God? – part 2

In my last blog we looked at the question, is it okay to be angry with God? We looked at some Old Testament characters that were angry. Today we’ll look at some people from the New Testament. When we come to the New Testament and the sisters Mary and Martha, we find, in concern for their brother when he was sick, they sent to Jesus to come and help, John 11:3. Instead of immediately rushing to their aid, even though he loved this family, Jesus delayed another two days before setting out, John 11.6. By the time Jesus arrived, Lazarus … Continue reading →

Are You Upset About a Small Issue…or is it Something Larger?

I have been known to overreact. There, I’ve said it. I find that when I catch myself getting incredibly upset at a pile of muddy shoes or a sink full of dirty dishes, chances are there is something much larger than the little infraction that is bothering me. The trick, however, is to figure it out, get things straight, and not take it out on my children. So, what is really going on? When we parents find ourselves flying off the handle over little things (“Do you always have to slam the door?!!!!”) it can often be just a symptom … Continue reading →

What Really Happens When Adopted Kids Grow Up?

It’s a fear that creeps into most parents’ minds occasionally, and perhaps a bit more often for adoptive parents: “What if my kid turns out to be a totally messed-up adult?” It’s awfully hard to imagine a sweet-faced, affectionate five-year-old as an out-of-control teen or an embittered and estranged young adult. Yet, sometimes we meet caring parents whose teens have fallen into drug abuse, or sweet elderly neighbors whose children never visit, or a couple celebrating their 60th anniversary whose children have each been divorced three times. Thus we have two opposing voices in our heads. Usually the one that … Continue reading →