Tag Archives: anger

Being a Mother Bear

There is a bear inside each of us mothers. We have the instinct to know the sound of our child’s cry, sense her footsteps shuffling on the steps, or even recognize his characteristic “scent.” And given the right circumstances, we can be tremendously protective. Nobody better mess with my kid. Nobody better look at him funny. Nobody better hurt her feelings. Deprive my kid, and you’re gonna deal with the mother bear. Various mother bear memories of my own come to mind: I still recall standing in a school bus and hearing older children laugh at my son. Once a … Continue reading →

Insecurity in Adopted Children

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Our adopted children occasionally struggle with feeling secure with their new family. Some of the behaviors are obvious and expected, while others are not. Tommy came to our home from a brief stay in a foster home which had followed a stay in an inner city shelter. He was 30 months old. He was prone to throwing rages. Many of them were triggered by insecurity issues. Tommy would become hysterical when either of us left the house. It was even triggered when he heard one of us discussing running an errand. The mere sight of a suitcase or a packed … Continue reading →

Dealing with Children’s Emotions

As your baby moves into the toddler age, then on into adolescence he or she will experience bouts of anger. The bottom line is that different children handle change and stress in a unique way. During more stressful times, one child may become quiet and withdrawn while another child explodes in fits of anger. As a single parent, you have the responsibility of teaching your child that being upset is normal but with boundaries. Reacting to your child who is in a fit of anger with your own anger will only escalate the situation. Instead, react with a calm voice … Continue reading →

Postpartum depression: Effects on relationships (3)

In this blog, we continue with looking at how postpartum depression affects the mother, her partner and family and friends as discussed in Postpartum depression: Effects on relationships (1) and (2). Antidepressant medication may or may not be required, depending on medical advice. Whether medication is indication or not, there will be periods where the new mother is well and functioning, and other times when the old symptoms return. This is normal. As previously discussed, household help will be required so that the mother can turn her limited resources towards the baby. She will also need time out from her … Continue reading →

Fitness Tips: Anger & Fitness

Anger is a natural emotion and many of us feel it. In fact, not only do most of us feel it – many of us shut it down because we’re told from a very young age that anger is a bad thing. Our religions tell us to not to do it. Our parents tell us to not to do it. Our relationship therapists tell us not to do it. We’ve known for years that anger is often related to health problems such as ulcers, acid reflux and other digestive problems. Let me be clear here, I am not a doctor … Continue reading →

Do You Get Angry with Your Child? I Do, Because Anger is a Natural Feeling.

Related articles: Emotional Intelligence and Clear Communication; Dealing with a Passive Aggressive-Manipulator; The Cycle of Violence: Part 7, Stand Over. Anger is natural and normal. Just like any other emotion, we have the innate ability to feel angry and the right to let others know what we are feeling. However, often the behaviors that we display when we are angry are the problem. The behaviors we display are not our emotion – they are our behaviors Just as children get angry and throw a tantrum, so too do us parents. These tantrums are unacceptable and let other big people know … Continue reading →

Dealing with a Passive-Aggressive Manipulator (2)

In Dealing with a Passive-Aggressive Manipulator (1), we looked at some of the thoughts patterns, beliefs, and behaviors of the passive-aggressive person. In this article, we will look at ways to minimize the damage they can cause in your life. Because the passive-aggressive person inherently believes they are blameless, innocent, and basically good people, anything that threatens that view of themselves threatens the very core of their being. They live in a world where they must conceal all the “awful” things about themselves at all costs. Yet, for the most, none of these things are awful at all. They are … Continue reading →

The experience of losing a parent

Unless we die early in life, we all go through the process of losing a parent or parent substitute. When our mother or father dies, it is a truly unique experience because, unlike with other people, in most cases we have literally known our parents all our lives. We know of no existence without our parents being there. And that is why losing a parent can be such a traumatic ordeal for many people. Whether we lose a parent when we are young or our parent reaches a great age and we are almost elderly ourselves, the death of a … Continue reading →

Coping with Sexual Harassment and Assault (2)

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Sexual assault cuts across gender and racial boundaries causing distress to both sufferers and their loved ones. When sexual assault occurs, it often turns the life of the victim upside down as they struggle to deal with a raft of mixed emotions. Unfortunately, it is hard to prepare yourself for many of life’s more difficult challenges, but having knowledge about what happens on a psychological basis after an assault and ways to deal with the aftermath can go a long way to helping ourselves and others deal with this all-too-common crime. Statistics show that, for females, the highest rate of … Continue reading →

Stages of Grief-Anger

As noted yesterday, over the next few posts I will describe the stages of grief along with potentially beneficial ways to work through that particular stage while experiencing the breakup of a relationship. The stages of grief are not always experienced in a systematic order and often a person can be in more than one stage at a time. For the purpose of these articles, I will treat each stage as a separate, easily identifiable step in the healing process. Anger is potentially the most volatile of the stages of grief. People can easily and quickly move through anger to … Continue reading →