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Relationship Rules

When it comes to relationships, we need rules and we need those rules for two reasons. The first reason, the most simple of reasons actually, is to know what to expect or to look for. The second reason, maybe not so simple, is that it’s hard to judge what a relationship should be from day to day. After all, it seems that complex and complicated relationships have become the acceptable norm. Truth be told, the individual invents the complexity in relationships. Our relationships now are no more complex than they were fifty years ago or a hundred years ago. The … Continue reading →

Marriage Tips: Assume Good Intentions

I love that phrase: assume good intentions. I have loved it for years. I heard it for the first time from my husband in the few months after we first met. You can say that at the time, I was something of a cynic. I suppose I still am, yet because of this one phrase, I’m a great deal more optimistic than I used to be. But let’s think about the phrase: assume good intentions. What does it mean? When you assume good intentions, you don’t automatically presume that someone forgot something because they just didn’t care enough about it … Continue reading →

Marriage Tips: Two’s Company

It’s important to remember that in your marriage there is you and your spouse. While you are both interconnected with a variety of other people from extended family to coworkers to friends – it’s important to remember that when it comes to your marriage – it’s you and your spouse. You are a team. You rise and fall together. I remember being told for years that my husband and I had the perfect relationship, of course, I knew better. But on the outside, we presented that unified front. We were a team and that’s what most everyone saw. On the … Continue reading →

Positive Expectations

What are your expectations of your spouse? What are your expectations of yourself? Have you ever noticed that when you expect the worst, that’s usually what happens? Have you ever found that people live up to your expectations? Not too long ago in this blog the importance of assuming good intentions. Hand in hand with assuming good intentions is stressing positive expectations. Assuming Good Intentions When you assume good intentions, you are less likely to think someone (your partner or spouse specifically) is doing anything to you out of malice. Instead, by assuming good intentions, you can rightfully believe they … Continue reading →