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When People Make Assumptions and Say Rude Comments in Public

Dealing with rude comments and people’s assumptions is one of those life realities that has a tendency to catch us off guard. No matter how many times you have been on the receiving end of an inappropriate comment, I don’t know if we ever get used to it. Surely, it is not just single parents who have to wrestle with this problem but I do think we get more than our fair share. What can we do when we are on the receiving end and what can we do to make sure we are not the ones making rude or … Continue reading →

Responding and/or Combating Others’ Assumptions

Let’s face it—people make assumptions all the time—they make assumptions about other people, situations, institutions, the weather—you name it. As a single parent, we are often on the receiving end of other people’s assumptions and we can either ignore them, or find a way to respond and counter those assumptions with a reasonable dose of reality. How we respond and whether we respond at all will depend on our own personalities and what the circumstance requires… While I definitely do not think that stereotyping and making assumptions is limited to single parents, we do have a tendency to get our … Continue reading →

Re-visit Co-parenting Assumptions

Once you and your child’s other parent get a “system” worked out to deal with custody and parenting responsibilities, it can be quite normal to settle into a state of complacency. After all, it may have taken a lot of grief and negotiations to get to a sane and stable place. However, it is important to periodically revisit and restate what is going on and make sure that everyone is still on the same page. When I think of “assumptions,” I am thinking of the agreements we come to with the other parent, or things that evolve and seem to … Continue reading →

“Bought and Sold”

“Flash Fiction: ‘A Meditation on Voices Lost or Stolen Only to be Bought and Sold Like Chinese Babies’ –page 8” read the Table of Contents. I have heard some pretty weird things about adoption, but this has to be one of the most blatantly callous. The piece was in an independently published magazine I picked up from the rack at our local pool. The story had nothing to do with adoption. It didn’t even mention Chinese babies anywhere in the story, only in the title. The piece was a science-fiction story in which people’s voices could fall out, be tricked … Continue reading →

Agreeing to Disagree

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When it comes to marriage and problems, sometimes couples get too focused on winning an argument. The simple truth is when you focus on winning an argument – you are both deciding that one of you will be the loser. This is especially true when you are in the early years of a marriage. There is More than One Truth When we talk about arguments, it’s usually because the parties involved have different viewpoints. Your perspective and your perception are two of the main ingredients in determining not only how you feel about a matter, but also how you define … Continue reading →