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Are Your Really Modeling Appropriate Behavior?

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Modeling appropriate behavior is something parents strive to do and most times we do a good job of it. We remember not to swear in front of our kids. We always say “please” and “thank you”. However, I’ve realized that we do weird things sometimes. Take for instance, yelling. We want our kids not to yell and talk loud yet we yell and talk loud. I realized the absurdity of this on Saturday when Tyler had his volume at full-blast. “Stop making so much NOISE,” I yelled. Where does that kid get his loud mouth? Well, duh! I try to … Continue reading →

Now or Later?

If you have kids who procrastinate, here’s a technique that might help. It’s called The Now or Later Technique. Dr. Jerry Day describes it and like his behavior shaping technique mentioned in a previous blog, this is one of those techniques that you shouldn’t try unless you can see it through to the end. There’s a good chance you will be inconvenienced initially but if you are persistent, you probably won’t have to do it again. Let’s look at a child who procrastinates when it comes to cleaning his room. The first step is to give your child a directive, … Continue reading →

Extreme Behavior Shaping

In my last blog, I talked about a behavior shaping technique called the 30-Second Technique as described by Dr. Jerry Day. In most cases, your child will comply by the time the sixth item has been taken away. Most will comply even earlier. However, just in case this method does not work you will have to continue removing items until you “clean the child out and empty the room.” Day says that in forty years of practice he knows of only two cases where parents had to go to this extreme. After you remove all of the child’s toys and … Continue reading →

Behavior Shaping

Getting our kids to comply with even simple requests can sometimes be a daily struggle. Fortunately there are many techniques available to help parents in their struggles. One such technique is a behavior shaping method known as the 30-Second Technique described by Dr. Jerry Day. It’s a twist on the “count to three” method that many parents use, but as Day points out, some parents don’t think ahead to what they will do once they reach three. Here’s a brief highlight of how the method works. (1) Take an inventory of items in your child’s room and rank them from … Continue reading →