Tag Archives: birth parent

Resources for Keeping Tabs on Birth Parents

As a mom who’s adopted child number 6 of 7 and worked very hard to make sure the adoptive parents of all these kids have contact, I have needed to be able to keep tabs on our son’s birth mother. This goes for our younger son’s birth mother as well. It might come across as a bit of an obsession of mine. It grieves my heart at the possibility of a child being born and none of us ever knowing of their existence. Not all birth mothers who’ve lost their children to the state have criminal records, but many of … Continue reading →

The Reunion – Someone Like Me

I have spent my entire life wishing there was someone like me. I knew at a young age I was different. I cannot explain in every way how I was different, but I knew I was. All I wanted was someone else who could understand me, because my family certainly didn’t. I wasn’t like them at all. Mom and I in November 2003 And from the instant we laid eyes on each other, I knew that this someone I had been wishing and searching for, was finally here. My birth mother is probably more like me than anyone else in … Continue reading →

The Reunion – A Mother Finally Holds Her Baby Girl

When our eyes locked, it was amazing. It was like an electric energy was coursing through me, and I realized that I was honestly looking at the person who gave me life. If it wasn’t for her, I would not be here today. The thirty or forty feet we had to walk across the baggage claim area, to get to each other seemed like an eternity. While in reality it was only seconds. And just like in the movies, when she got to me everything she was carrying hit the floor and I rushed into her arms and she held … Continue reading →

The Reunion of Mother and Child: How It Began

I shared my search story, and I know I left a lot out. It was a long process, and one I wish to never repeat. The emotions associated with a search are incredible, and not necessarily in a good way. However, there did come a time, when the search was over, that I began to wonder about a possible face-to-face reunion. It was strange, but surreal. I was happy just having contact via letters and emails and the occasional phone call. But after time, I needed more. The phone calls began coming more and more frequently to where my birth … Continue reading →

Does My State Have a State Reunion Registry?

A reunion registry is a place where members of the adoption triad (adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents) searching for each other, post their information in hopes for a match. About half the states do have reunion registries available. Some have very restrictive guidelines and other’s are typically a bit more relaxed. So does your state have a reunion registry? Remember, that the state in question, should be the state the adoption was finalized in. Alabama – None Alaska – None Arizona – None Arkansas – Yes, Contact the State Adoption Department at: Department of Human Services, Division of Social … Continue reading →

Roses and Peaches….Not Really

Sometimes when people look at my search and subsequent reunion, they think that everything was all roses and peaches and that life is perfect. And while to some, it may look that way now, it wasn’t always that way. Even after that initial letter I received from my biological mother, things weren’t always peaches and roses. In fact, we would stay in contact via letters and then not talk for months. It was hard to establish a relationship and connect when we both were so busy with our own lives. We lived hundreds upon hundreds of miles apart, and we’d … Continue reading →

Adoptee Poetry: Never

As I’ve mentioned before that during my search for my biological family, I wrote a lot of poetry, essays and thoughts and feelings down. I have journals, notebooks and binders filled to over flowing with words I had to get out. It’s a safe place for me to go when depressed, angry or frustrated. Thankfully, most of my current day writing is much brighter and not as dark as back then. I do own the copyright on all of my own work, however I have not shared most of these publicly before. They have been posted on an adoption website … Continue reading →