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Adoption Related Music and Songs

During my entire search for my biological mother, I found great comfort in music. In fact, I’ve always taken great comfort in music. Music has a way of making even the worst situations, move you to a place where there is comfort and peace. Lifting your spirit, music encompasses your entire soul. In my search for my biological mother, and the during the subsequent reunion, I found a peace with what I now call, adoption songs. When I was searching for my biological mother, I made my own music tapes of songs that reminded me of my search – now … Continue reading →

Belonging, Identity and ‘The’ Reason Why: How I Decided Not to Search for My Birth Parents (cont’d.

Perhaps I’m a naturally “uncurious” person. But since I belong to my parents, I can’t imagine going to look for another mother, or what place this person could possibly hold in my life. Of course I realize a birth mother wouldn’t be “another mother”, and yet how do you define a relationship with someone who has given you life biologically, and at the same time given you nothing of the life you know now. I have never felt the need to look for this person to help define who I am. My identity, I feel, is largely formed in how … Continue reading →

The Reunion – Someone Like Me

I have spent my entire life wishing there was someone like me. I knew at a young age I was different. I cannot explain in every way how I was different, but I knew I was. All I wanted was someone else who could understand me, because my family certainly didn’t. I wasn’t like them at all. Mom and I in November 2003 And from the instant we laid eyes on each other, I knew that this someone I had been wishing and searching for, was finally here. My birth mother is probably more like me than anyone else in … Continue reading →

The Reunion – A Mother Finally Holds Her Baby Girl

When our eyes locked, it was amazing. It was like an electric energy was coursing through me, and I realized that I was honestly looking at the person who gave me life. If it wasn’t for her, I would not be here today. The thirty or forty feet we had to walk across the baggage claim area, to get to each other seemed like an eternity. While in reality it was only seconds. And just like in the movies, when she got to me everything she was carrying hit the floor and I rushed into her arms and she held … Continue reading →

The Reunion – Anticipation

The anticipation leading up to the face to face reunion was the most incredible, amazing feeling I’d ever known. I had no clue how anxious I’d be. And how nervous I was not. I thought for sure I’d be terrified, but I wasn’t worried about any of that. The weeks stretched on and I thought it would never get here. I kept having dreams, or more like nightmares, that she would call and say, “I’m sorry I cannot make it”. It didn’t matter the reason she wouldn’t be able to come, but my faith was so faltering during the time, … Continue reading →

The Reunion of Mother and Child: How It Began

I shared my search story, and I know I left a lot out. It was a long process, and one I wish to never repeat. The emotions associated with a search are incredible, and not necessarily in a good way. However, there did come a time, when the search was over, that I began to wonder about a possible face-to-face reunion. It was strange, but surreal. I was happy just having contact via letters and emails and the occasional phone call. But after time, I needed more. The phone calls began coming more and more frequently to where my birth … Continue reading →

How Long Does An Adoption Search Take?

Every adoptee beginning a search is hoping that their search will be quick and easy and that there will be no snags. Is this possible? Sometimes. But more often than not, a search takes quite a bit of time and effort until its completion. To be quite honest, there is not any real answer to this question. There is no length or period of time that can be provided to anyone. However, there are several factors that can provide for a quicker more relaxed search. Organization Being as organized as you can during this time, is important. Keeping track of … Continue reading →

Roses and Peaches….Not Really

Sometimes when people look at my search and subsequent reunion, they think that everything was all roses and peaches and that life is perfect. And while to some, it may look that way now, it wasn’t always that way. Even after that initial letter I received from my biological mother, things weren’t always peaches and roses. In fact, we would stay in contact via letters and then not talk for months. It was hard to establish a relationship and connect when we both were so busy with our own lives. We lived hundreds upon hundreds of miles apart, and we’d … Continue reading →

Adoption Poetry: After the Initial Contact

My outlet has always been writing, and because of that, I have accumulated quite the nice possession of original poetry and essays by yours truly. Always very hesitant to share with just anyone, I finally have let that go, and decided to place some of them here. So on this beautiful Monday morning, I thought I’d share just a couple of poems that were written shortly after the first contact that my biological mother and I had with each other. The feelings were so raw, and so unpredictable back then, it’s interesting for me to go back and read them. … Continue reading →

A Birthmother’s Love

I kept reading and trying to understand. I had to wipe away tears and try to control sobs as I simply stood there staring at the words on the paper. It was all like a dream. Words that I had almost longed for my entire life, but that in some ways I had prepared myself to never hear, spelled out on this paper. “I’ve felt like a failure as a mother but my heart rejoices that at least I did right by you. Your card came at a very difficult time in my life – and I pray that you … Continue reading →