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Grandfather’s Eyes

As I looked up into the doorway, my heart stopped. I looked back towards the car for a moment to catch my breath and catch the eye of my husband, whom I knew had to see what I saw. Standing before me was a man, who there was no doubt was related to me. None. The eyes, the face, oh my gosh! Those eyes. My grandfather’s EYES! They were so blue… and so gorgeous and I wanted to cry, but instead, I just stood there – having no idea what to say, trying to hear Terrie talk, but being so … Continue reading →

Who Was This Man

My story is a long one if you haven’t seen that so far. As I’ve already mentioned, we had visited all the locations I needed to visit for my own peace of mind. You know – those places that I just needed to see? Deep breath, now it was time to go find these two address’, where my “relative” was known to be living with this Linda R. The first place we came to was a beautiful neighborhood, nice large, gorgeous houses. We got out and walked around, and I felt nothing. I felt weird about walking around someone’s property, … Continue reading →

A Little Footwork Goes a Long Way

Now it’s time to do a little footwork. Footwork is an important part of the whole search process. It includes things like library visits, visiting places that were involved in the adoption process, such as hospitals, lawyer offices, etc. My footwork was a little different. We took the male’s name off my relinquishment papers and my searcher, Bret cross-referenced the name to see if any other names linked with it. Sure enough, we came up with a woman named Linda R. She was linked to him in a couple of places, which means they purchased property together, or co-signed together … Continue reading →

More About Using Internet Resources

The Internet provides you with dozens and dozens of options when you are a member in the triad. But I am going to focus on an adoptees view point and what we can gain from Internet use. Support Groups/Mailing Lists I was able to find support groups and email groups. They kept me sane. They answered questions when I had them. They looked at every aspect of adoption. I only joined those that allowed all members of the triad, because I wanted everyone’s viewpoint. Often they will provide you with information you might not otherwise have found. Friendship This was … Continue reading →

Using Internet Resources

The beginning of my search was a very difficult time. It was a touchy subject between my adoptive mother and I, and the last thing I wanted to do was upset her. I was HER daughter and that was all that should have mattered from her standpoint. But unfortunately, as most adoptees know, it isn’t all that matters. Because we do have a place that we came from. And we do need to seek out that information. Well, most of us do. Because my adoptive mother was not supportive of my searching, it was difficult to access some of the … Continue reading →

Beginning My Search For My Biological Mother (2)

Continuing the article…. Daria, who is still a dear friend of mine, truly one of the best. She was “almost” a biological mother in the triad. She had given birth to a beautiful baby girl she named Jenna. She was going to relinquish Jenna because she was so young and didn’t think she could take care of her. As we all know, teenage mom’s have odds stacked against them dramatically. She gave Jenna up for a couple of days and came back to get her. Thankfully her case worker knew that Daria wasn’t sure about this and no permanent placement … Continue reading →

Beginning My Search For My Biological Mother (1)

The search for my biological mother was long, and grueling. I encountered many obstacles, and discovered a lot of horrible information, as well as a lot of untrue information, along the way. Throughout the whole process I had to remind myself that it was all the past, and what mattered now, was finding her and my future. My search began in 1994 on the AOL Adoption board. My son had just been born and I was determined to find the answers I had longed to know for so long. Many states have different ages in which adoption information can be … Continue reading →

Adoption Search Glossary

When you are beginning an adoption search, things can seem confusing and intimidating. You will come across all types of red tape, unhelpful people and doors slammed in your face. However, remain strong. Do a little research beforehand to know what problems you might face each step of the way. One of the first things I learned was that terminology was totally different for an adoption case than any other situation. I had no idea what the difference between my original birth certificate and my amended certificate was. I also had no idea what or who a triad was. I … Continue reading →

One Gave Me Roots, The Other Wings

Hi there! I’m Nicole Humphrey. You probably recognize me from the scrapbooking or frugal living blogs, but I have just accepted the position of blogger on the adoption blog as well. I am very excited about it. I will still be very active over at the scrapbooking and frugal living blogs, I just added another topic near and dear to my heart. I have really enjoyed being a part of this ever growing community at families.com over the past several months and look forward to forming even more new friendships in the days to come. As I am sure you … Continue reading →

Cleaning your Hard Drive Part 2 – Data CD

So you’ve done the computer equivalent of dusting and vacuuming but now you need to clean out the cluttered closet to make room. You have done the three steps I spoke about earlier and cleaned out any old files, as well as anything you don’t need or use anymore. But what about data that you don’t want to lose, but you would like to remove from your hard drive? Or data you would like to have on a back up copy? You can use the basic floppy disk, but the size limitations can be restrictive. Most modern computers have a … Continue reading →