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A Matter of Trust

I wonder how many of you noticed yesterday that there was one obvious T missing? Did you? There was a reason for that. The reason is it deserves a blog all its own. The word is trust. Do you trust your spouse implicitly? Do they trust you in that way? Do you trust each enough to be true to you when you are apart? How far would you trust your spouse with another woman or man as the case may be? Would you trust your man not to flirt but to behave if he goes out on a night with … Continue reading →

Can We Emphasize Culture Too Much?

The latest issue of Adoptive Families’ magazine has an article by Mei-Ling Hopgood. She writes from the perspective of an adult adoptee, having been adopted from Taiwan in the 1970s and raised in the U.S. by white parents, together with her two brothers adopted from Korea. I’ve written before about the discomfort I sometimes feel regarding how much to emphasize my daughters’ birth culture. Many young adult adoptees are now speaking out and saying that they either thought of themselves as “white” or desperately wanted to be, that they had a tremendous shock in high school or college when others … Continue reading →