Tag Archives: commitment

Love Well

Marriage isn’t a one off choice and that’s it, marriage is about choosing every day. Choosing to put someone else’s needs about your own. It’s choosing to be committed and stay committed and not keep looking around and wonder what if. . It’s choosing to look forward to each day with the one you’re with, rather than look back at the past and wonder what might have been. Marriage is offering support and encouragement to your spouse in the things they do. The other day advance copies of my two news children’s books for young readers arrived on our doorstep. … Continue reading →

What Would You Do for Love?

What would you do for love? How far would you go for the one you love? These are the questions asked and answered in Where the River Ends by Charles Martin. This is a beautiful picture of a marriage and the total commitment of a couple to each other despite the odds. Chris is from what most people would term ‘trailer trash.’ Abbie is a senator’s daughter and used to minks and diamonds. Despite all against them, including her family, they commit to each other and marry. Abbie constantly builds Chris up and actively encourages Chris to use and expand … Continue reading →

Lies Society Has Fed Us about Marriage

Marriage is just a piece of paper. Marriage is a contract. A binding contract. Imagine if you wanted to buy a house or a car or any other major purchase. You need to sign a contract. You make a commitment to it. Marriage is no different in that it is a commitment to one person. That piece of paper is a contract made before witnesses and before God if you are believers that you promise to commit totally to your spouse for your lifetime. It is as binding as any other contract, though unlike some contracts it doesn’t come with … Continue reading →

Marriage is a Lot Like Pizza

Marriage is a lot like pizza. It needs firstly a good solid and well rounded base to put the toppings on. Marriages need to be on a solid base of commitment and love and well rounded with time together and time apart, of conversation and of silence. Then the base needs to be spread with tomato paste or tomatoes. A marriage needs a good spread of love. The next thing Mick and I put on when making pizza is oregano and chili to spice it up. All marriages need to be spiced up at times. Then the toppings go on. … Continue reading →

Attack the Issue, Not Each Other

One of the things that I am working on within myself is to avoid attacking my spouse when there is an issue at hand. Instead, I try to focus on attacking the issue with him, instead. This helps keep the personal attacks and nagging each other away. Attacking the issue instead of each other can come up in many forms. For example, rather than attack my spouse for not getting a certain home repair done, I simply ask “What can I do to get this completed?” When he forgets to shoo our old cat down to the basement and close … Continue reading →

Jump Right In!

The other day at the beach I watched people cautiously approach the water and stick their toes in then jump back muttering,‘It’s cold,’ or ‘It’s freezing,’ or something similar. Those of us already in the water laughed, though I admit it is cold initially. Part of living on the South Coast of New South Wales is that the water seems to take longer to warm up. It’s a matter of getting over the initial reaction and getting in and getting the whole body wet not just up to the ankles. That first minute or two are cold but then you … Continue reading →

The Danger of Christmas

Following on from Mary Ann’s blog, it is especially important to remember at Christmas when there are Christmas parties happening and lots of events where people have at times had a few drinks. At such times sometimes fuelled by alcohol the inhibitions can tend to relax a little. And so we may need to be a little more vigilant about keeping that hedge up. We have some friends with whom we are on a hugs and kisses, hello and goodbye basis. Since I believe a kiss is a sensual thing, Outside of my husband and adult children no one else … Continue reading →

Building a Hedge Around Your Marriage

You may have heard the terminology of building a hedge around your marriage. I first became familiar with this term while listening to a pastor at church preach on the subject. But even if you aren’t religious, you can use this advice to help protect your marriage. Did you know that 70 percent of all married men and 60 percent of all married women have had affairs? This information comes from Dr. Holly Hein, author of the book, Sexual Detours. That translates roughly into only one out of three marriages where the husband and the wife are completely faithful to … Continue reading →

Today’s “Why I Got Married, Why I Stayed Single” Series

I caught an interesting segment on Today this morning. They’re examining why people get married or decide to stay single. This morning they started with why people get married. Why Get Married? I’ve often wondered this. I know why little girls get married. Part of it has to do with the Cinderella effect. Marriage is glamorized early on in a little girl’s life. But why do men marry? This has never made sense to me. Maybe it’s because of something Tristi pointed out in a comment on another blog: how the media belittles men. Tristi said she’s noticed it recently … Continue reading →

Marriage is a Commitment

How many times have you heard people say, ‘Marriage is only a piece of paper?’ Is it? I disagree. Marriage, I believe, is a commitment. Whether you get married in a church, a garden or a registry office doesn’t matter. The promise is the same. You are promising to love and give yourself to another person. It’s a commitment to that person, before God, and even if you’re not a believer, before friends, family and society. It’s both a commitment and a promise. Yet we hear people say ‘Marriage? Who needs it? We get along fine without it.’ Do they? … Continue reading →