Complaints are better than criticisms. I used to think complaints and criticisms were the same thing. Apparently, I wasn’t basing this on much in the way of substantial evidence. Marriage Guru and Therapist John Gottman calls criticism one of his four horsemen of the apocalypse where marriage is concerned. So let’s think about this for a minute. I can see his points. When we criticize someone all the time, we can alienate him or her and push him or her away. When we complain, we can express upset and a desire for help. Complaints can be filed and resolved. Criticisms … Continue reading →