Tag Archives: conflicts

Are You the Biggest Problem in Your Relationship’s Difficulties?

There’s a local news show in Nashville called Tennessee Mornings. Normally I watch Today during breakfast, but yesterday while a commercial was running I flipped channels. Which proved fortuitous because I flipped right when they were interviewing Joe Beam, a relationship expert. Apparently he has a national talk show called Give & Take with Joe Beam. I didn’t catch the entire interview, but from the bit I did catch I immediately discerned a couple of things. One, Mr. Beam has an incredibly friendly and warm style. Two, he’s also ultra sensible and direct in his views. But he’s not abrasive … Continue reading →

Helping Them See Beneath the Surface

Kids tend to be pretty black and white in their thinking and in how they see the world. They also have a tendency to be judgmental and come to snap decisions about things–at least during the adolescent years. As parent, we can help them learn how to open up and see beyond what is obvious; we can help them look for motivations and see beneath the surface of what appears to be going on. Children can be so “in the moment” and this has some really wonderful things about it. BUT, that can also result in an inability to see … Continue reading →

Detaching From Conflicts and Problems

I knew someone once who called it “churning yourself into butter”–all that fussing and worrying a person can do when she is faced with a conflict or problem. I know that many of us think that when it comes to business we need to stay in there and focus–fight the good fight! Sometimes, however, the thing to do is to detach and take our energy and focus away from a conflict or problem in order to gain fresh perspective and actually reach resolution and solution. Detaching is different from just abandoning or walking away from a conflict or problem. The … Continue reading →