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Missed Visitations

The biological mother was following her reunification plan, she has a job and a place to live but now she has her new husband who also had to follow the reunification plan. When her and her new husband got together is when the mother started to miss appointments. She missed a counseling session then she missed a visitation. If the roles were reversed I cannot imagine anything being more important than visiting with my baby, but I am never going to be in that situation. It is really annoying when we drive the 70 miles to the visitation and the … Continue reading →

Reunification?

Our children all have the same biological mother, just different biological fathers. Our two sons were placed in foster care when George was 2 months and Steve was 2 years old. The biological mother had a reunification plan that she had to follow but she disappeared without completing the plan. When she was missing for about a year the state severed her parental rights on them. What the state did not know was when she disappeared she was leaving for a new guy. The new guy helped her create our little Rebecca. Rebecca was removed from her care directly after … Continue reading →

My Journal To Fight

As I have mentioned in an earlier entry I was told if we wanted to keep Rebecca with us and stop the reunification process we were going to have to fight. I am one who fights for what she loves so our fight began. The first part of the fight was providing the redacted record on the boys to the case worker for Rebecca. Step two was going to be writing everything down. If there is a written log that follows everything that happens we would hopefully have enough information to fight for her. I had bought a notebook and … Continue reading →

The First Visit

One part of the conversation that I had with Rebecca’s CPS Case Worker that I have not yet mentioned was that the biological mother was entitled to visitation. She was going to be allowed 1 hour every two weeks to have supervised visitation with my little girl. I did feel a little better that they would be supervised but I did still not like this. We lived about an hour and a half from the town where Rebecca was born so for the first visit we drove her down for the visitation. The case had been assigned a new case … Continue reading →

Racial Trends

OK let me start by saying that I by no means mean the following in any racial context. There are some trends that seem to follow racial lines. When I drive down the street I usually don’t see Caucasians with their pants so darn low that almost all of their underwear is showing. I do however see a lot of African American boys and adults even with their pants so low they can barely walk. I really do not understand the reasoning of this; don’t these people understand where that trend came from? It started in jail need I say … Continue reading →

We Survived Our First Nights With a Newborn

We survived our first night as parents to a three week old. It seems so surreal that two days ago we did not even know that our little girl was in existence and now here we are parents to a 3 year old, a one year old and a three week old. I am not going to lie getting three kids in a less than five months was a lot. It was a huge culture shock. When we started the adoption process we did not even consider a new born and here we are. Unlike when you have a child … Continue reading →

We Find Out ABout Our Daughter

So I am sitting at my desk at work and the Texas CPS case worker for our two boys was on the phone. They had found their biological mother who was under arrest for a parole violation and he had a question for me. My heart was racing and tears were welling in my eyes I thought for sure he was going to tell me she wanted to fight for custody of at least one of the boys who I loved as my sons. It was a week before our first Christmas we have been looking forward to this so … Continue reading →

Do We Sleep In PJ’s

When we got home we had to explain to Steve why it was not ok to take things without paying for them. I do not know if he really understood or not but we tried. We also met with the school and explained a little more about Steve’s past history and asked that they not tempt fate and let us know before there is a book fair so we can re-emphasize to him that things must be paid for before we can take them. A few weeks after the book fair incident we got another call from the school this … Continue reading →

Steve Started Pre-School

The boys were starting daycare and we were both starting back to work. I worked close enough that I could go to the day care if there was a problem. Our daycare lady that we chose was amazing with the boys and we were so lucky to have found her. The boys both seemed to adjust to going to daycare and living with us great. We have all adjusted to being a real family and the boys are calling us Mommy & Daddy. George was still too little to get those words out so it was more like Ma and … Continue reading →

Getting Them To Sleep In Their Beds

When Steve and George were placed with us both my husband and I took two weeks off of work so we had some time to bond with them. We knew we were going to adopt them; there was no question in our minds about that. We had requested that only children with parental rights already terminated or in the final stages. We did not want to take the chance that we would get attached to the boys and then have to give them back. In the state of Texas a child must be in your care before you can legally … Continue reading →