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The Nerve of Some People

We have had total strangers come up to us and ask us why our middle son does not look like us. Sometimes we just walk away but I will admit I did have a little fun with it sometimes. If my children were not within ear shot I would come up with different replies for these nosey people. Some of the better replies I have come up with range from “I know he does not look like us but the hospital insist we took the correct baby home” or “ I know my husband looks like he is Caucasian but … Continue reading →

Day Two as a Family

Well last night was hard I won’t lie, our first night home and I dealt with lice, vomit and my 3 year old Steve crying in his sleep under his toddler bed. It was a rough night but it was our first night as a family so all the negatives were definitely outweighed by the positives. Steve’s head was still crawling I did not know how long it took for the lice treatment to work. I read the box again and waited a little longer. We invited some family members over today and had them come in small groups I … Continue reading →

Bringing Our Sons Home

When we walked into the house with our sons for the first time it seemed a bit surreal. When we were getting the boys room ready we did not know if we were getting boys or girls or how old they would be. We decorated the room with wall high brightly colored jungle animals painted on a wall and half. We did this ourselves and we were very proud of how good it looked we just hoped the boys would like it. When they walked into the room there was a toddler bed for the 3 year old and a … Continue reading →

The Week We Became a Family

Our week started and we were just a couple in the process to adopt. On Wednesday we found out we were going to be parents of two small boys a fourteen month old and his three year old brother. On Friday we drove to Houston from Dallas to meet our sons the very next day. Wait it gets better, we met them for a few hours at the babies foster home then the fourteen month old came to spend the night with us that Saturday night. On Sunday we had to bring him back to his foster family so they … Continue reading →

Something You Should Know

We have three children that came to our family through adoption. All three children are siblings, they have the same biological mother but they all have different biological fathers. The biological mother is Caucasian and one of our sons has a father that is African American. With us being Caucasian we were not really sure about different skin and hair care issues that a child of an African American race we would encounter. The first difference that we came to was when the Pediatrician told us he was “ashy”. What the heck is “ashy”? I had no clue, but I … Continue reading →

Our Night in the Hotel

The day that we met our soon to be sons’ was one of the best days of our lives. We played games, had snacks and got acquainted with our new kids. We had a chance to talk to the foster parents to see what they liked and did not, their schedules etc. It was almost like we were getting ready to babysit 2 kids and their parents were telling us the rules. When it came time for the older child to go back to his foster home we packed up the 14 month old and took him back to the … Continue reading →

Who Cares if my Family Matches?

Have you ever taken a child to one of those family friendly kids pizza restaurant and they won’t let you leave with your child? Can you believe that this could and does happen? It has happened to my family. When we went into the restaurant we were expecting a day of family fun, playing games and a pizza dinner. We all walked in got all the same stamps on our hands showing we were in the same group. No one questioned us when we were on our way in to the restaurant. The situation totally changed when we were done … Continue reading →

The Day we Met Our Sons

So we drove the four hours down on Friday night to go meet our new sons. Boy, it sounds so weird to say that we are going to meet our sons. We have two empty car seats in the car and a stuffed animal for each of the boys. We stayed the night in town where our sons are from we were so nervous I do not think we slept at all. When I wake up in the morning I am going to meet my sons! What if they don’t like me? When Saturday morning comes we got up, ate … Continue reading →

I am Going to be a Mom

So we got the news last night that we were going to be parents of a three year old son and a 14 month old son. I can hardly believe it I was going to be a Mom!!! The excitement of seeing their pictures the next day made it impossible to sleep. When the email came from our case worker they sent it to my husband’s work. When he got the pictures he was so excited he could barely speak. He sent me the email and I opened it up to see my sons, they had big brown eyes and … Continue reading →

What Would you Have Done?

As a Caucasian person I had never really had to face racism directly. So when we chose to adopt a child or children of color, racism never really entered my thoughts. I never would have expected to encounter it. Maybe it was me just being naive but I never thought that we would have to deal with it. Unfortunately we have been confronted with racism, hatred and bigots. I am not sure why a person can have such strong views about something that has nothing to do with them. I must say, I do know one of my sons is … Continue reading →