Tag Archives: disagreements

What I Love About Being Married

We see so much about the negatives and sad stories of marriages that I thought I’d tell you some of the things I love about being married. Maybe you’ll agree with some of them. I love that after all these years, I’d still rather be with him than anyone else and I know he feels the same about me. I love going to bed and curling up together at night and waking up with him still there in the morning wrapped together. When we first got married, Mick found whenever he moved over I did too, till he was balanced … Continue reading →

Ten Tips about Arguments

Yesterday we looked at the fact that disagreements are not always bad in a marriage. Here are some further tips for how to deal with those argumentative times. 1. Stick to the topic at hand. Don’t bring up past issues and arguments. The past should be a closed book with a sign that says ‘Do not open.’ Once it is over, leave it over. Don’t hark back to it. 2. Don’t attack your spouse. And avoid expressions like ‘You always do……’ or ‘You never say……’ 3. Do not resort to naming calling and using belittling words. Such behavior achieves nothing … Continue reading →

Arguments Cause Hurt Feelings

Arguments may be inevitable in family life, as are those power struggles and disagreements, but the truth is even if one person feels like they “win” an argument, someone always gets hurt feelings. Often, both sides have hurt feelings by the end of the argument and how can this make an argument worthwhile? I am not saying that we should not express our emotions or teach our children how to say when they are angry, frustrated, or aggravated, but I do think that we need to keep in mind that the outcome of an argument is generally hurt feelings. Whether … Continue reading →

Single Parent Conflicts—Agree to Disagree

There is a time and a place for standing your ground. I know that many of my experiences as a single parent have taught me how to stand firm, advocate, and stick up for my own interests (and my families). This advocacy can turn to defensiveness, however, and we also need to learn how to communicate and coordinate with other parties and sometimes that means that we simple agree to disagree… Whether it is a disagreement with the Ex or your child’s other parent, a teacher or administrator at your child’s school, a grandparent, or some other person or party … Continue reading →

When Fear of a Battle Keeps You from Speaking Up

Many of us single parents feel as though we have seen our share of battles. Perhaps we had a tough divorce or separation, or we have had to do battle for custody, battle with our ex or other family members, or we feel as though we are constantly fighting at work or on other fronts. This overload of battles can make us feel as though we just do not have another fight left in us and can contribute to us avoiding speaking up or standing up for what we feel is going on, in order to avoid any more battles. … Continue reading →

Standing Out For All The Wrong Reasons

As Christians our presence needs to be noticeable and make a difference in the world. Too often though, it seems Christians are noticeable for all the wrong reasons. I saw an example of this recently. A woman known as a Christian, overreacted creating a huge fuss over what was a trivial situation. The result was she not only drew attention to herself but cast all Christians in a bad light, because the world doesn’t discriminate. If one Christian, or one who claims to be Christian, does or says something wrong, we all end up getting lumped in the same category. … Continue reading →

Marriage Roadblock: Latin America vs. Europe

Wayne and I have run into one of the biggest problems we’ve had in years. One we haven’t been able to find a way of settling without getting very huffy with one another. See, we both have a passion for travel and really want to take an overseas/out of country vacation. We just can’t seem to agree on the same destination. Ever since before I met Wayne I’ve dreamt of going to France. Not so much Paris as somewhere in the countryside. (I’m not a big city person but everyone keeps telling me I should make an exception for Paris. … Continue reading →

Disagreements With Vendors and Suppliers

Things are not always a rosy walk in the park and even if we have good working relationships with our vendors, suppliers, and colleagues, disagreements and conflicts can arise. How do you handle them with tact and grace, however, in order to preserve both your company’s reputation and your working relationships with those vendors? Let us say that you have ordered some printing work done for a project you are completing. The final product is NOT what you expected, or what you wanted. The color might be off or you think that a mistake has been made by the vendor. … Continue reading →

You Don’t Always Have to “Win”

As you may imagine, with three teenagers of my own and often a few “extras” in my house, there are plenty of opinions, theories, politics, and comments flying around at any given moment. It used to be, when my children were smaller, that we could have “discussions” and I could share my opinions, values, and ideas with them. But now days, they are working pretty hard at developing their own and I have the sort of kids who would argue and debate over just about anything. That isn’t exactly my style, but it is hard not to get sucked into … Continue reading →

Financial Goals for Marriage

Finances and marriage are always a tough combination. There never seems to be enough money and sometimes, there can be too much. Both can be a potent one-two punch to a marriage’s balance and tranquility. Married to the Money Financially, my marriage has been in both boats. In the early years of our relationship, we always had excess cash. It sounds great and at times, it was great. But whenever we had difficulties in the relationship, we used money to repair problems. We’d buy presents or go do something extravagant. Retail therapy was a great panacea for all ills. What … Continue reading →