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Four Financial Considerations When You Are Getting Divorced

Divorce is difficult for everyone involved. It is generally a situation in which emotions usually play a big heart. Generally there is so much to consider that it is easy to overlook financial considerations when it comes to the assets and the care of the children. It is important to focus on healing and helping your children, but setting up these stipulations during your divorce will help you down the line. 1) The first thing to consider is child support. The judge will usually decide what a fair amount is. There are many considerations, which include how you split the … Continue reading →

Dealing With Divorce

The incidence of divorce is fairly high in the world, and the percentage has increased among church members as well. There are many reasons that people get divorced, and it is important that we do not judge those that are. If you are ever faced with divorce, it can be a difficult and trying time. Your world just seems to shatter and you are left to pick up the pieces. Here are five tips on how to make the divorce go smoothly for your family. 1) While you may have bitter feelings towards your spouse, it is important to forgive … Continue reading →

The Marriage Blog Week in Review June 2 – June 8

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Wow, we’re wrapping up our first full week of June and has summer gotten started off with a bang? It’s the most popular month for weddings and we’ve got a lot of marriage in the news, marriage tips, and marriage advice and much more on marriage. So let’s take a look at our week in review: Saturday, June 2 My Spouse Won’t Go to the Doctor and it’s frustrating for you to cope with their illness and your own concern. So what can you do? Check out this article for some ideas and tips. Sunday, June 3 Marriage in the … Continue reading →

A Celebrity’s Ugly Divorce

That title seems so trite. After all, if kids and loads of money are involved there is little doubt that a divorce is going to be “ugly.” (Remember: Bruce Willis and Demi Moore’s situation is extremely rare.) And why wouldn’t it be? You have two people fighting over the things that mean the most to them… or at least that mean the most to the person they want to see suffer the most. Such is the current situation between actress Anne Heche and her estranged husband Coley Laffoon. According to news reports, the couple’s divorce fight has elevated and is … Continue reading →

Marriages Ending as Deployments Are Extended

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Deployments are being extended with units assigned overseas to Afghanistan and Iraq. One article in the Chicago Tribune noted that for one unit in Afghanistan for over 16 months and just extended for another four months the toll on the unit has been extreme. Eight men in the squadron have died. Wives have given birth to babies, one soldier’s wife suffered brain damage after getting in a car wreck that killed two other people. Another soldier found out that his father had less than two weeks to live after being diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. At least three soldiers … Continue reading →

Remember to Be the Adult

One thing that can happen in single parent families is that we can sometimes treat our kids more like peers and partners than children. With only one adult in the house, and children who might be expected to help out more than if there were two adults running the show, boundaries can get cloudy and kids can actually end up behaving and acting like adults. As parents, we have to make sure that we maintain those boundaries and keep our authority as the adult. It is completely natural that the dynamic in a single parent home will likely be different … Continue reading →

Should You Have a Calendar to Share Between Houses?

Organization is the saving grace of the single parent. At least, that is what I lean on to keep things from feeling too chaotic and overwhelming. As a matter of fact, I remember when I was first separated and divorced—getting organized was what helped me to build confidence and realize that I really could survive and thrive as a single mom. Now that my children are older teens, I don’t really need to coordinate and oversee the scheduling and transfers like I used to—but for younger, busier two-household families, a calendar to share between houses can be a very good … Continue reading →

Dealing With the “Ex” in Public

After a divorce or separation, you may be hoping for “out of sight, out of mind.” Or, at least, you might like to only have to deal with your ex at pre-arranged times for transfers and child-related decisions. However, there is the “public” factor to be considered—all the sporting events, special occasions, and performances involving your child where you will have to deal with the ex, and possible his or her new partner, in public. I don’t know about you, but the public events were the hardest for me to get used to. I would get “triggered”—particularly at my kids’ … Continue reading →

Negotiating (and Renegotiating) Which Parent Does What

Many of us single parents have an ex-spouse or co-parent who we need to work with in the process of raising our children. Good or bad, adequate working relationship or not, we still have to find a way to negotiate (and often times, renegotiate) which parent is going to take care of what. This can be anything but an easy, comfortable task! I’m speaking from experience when I admit that even the best laid plans can go awry. I tend to be a painfully organized person when it comes to paperwork and agreements, and just because it is written down … Continue reading →

Is Divorce Just so Five Minutes Ago?

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Is it a time to celebrate? Is it a time to get cynical? Despite the image of Americans as divorce crazy and that you aren’t a real adult until you’ve got at least one divorce under your belt, it seems that the rate of divorce is at its lowest level since 1970. That’s pretty impressive when you consider that 1970 was 2 years before I was born and that the peak in the divorce rate occurred in 1981 when I was just 9 years old. So What Does This Mean? Apparently, that’s still undecided. Even the experts aren’t sure whether … Continue reading →